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At the end of the day all assets are in the pot so you need to post details of ages, all assets, incomes and ages of children.
The priority will be housing the children and from the details you give that means your strict needs are for a three bed house.
How does this compare with the FMH?
Can you afford to stay in the FMH? You mention a mortgage free flat in London so presumably there is a sizeable asset pot?
I found myself relating to your post re a STBX who lies (almost without realising he is doing it!)
and who is emotionally abusive.
I started with the mediation route as I am aware that you need to have at least had the initial meeting (MIAM) before proceeding with a solicitor.
My mediator is very good and totally sees through his lies but manages to relay information to him without causing an explosive response. I have found this part of mediation to be very constructive and has helped with the issue of my children and whom they will be living with.
We are just about to embark on the finance side of things which I fully expect to be tricky. I will be taking it as far as I need to as being a reasonable person I am always looking to compromise however I am not going to be bullied into accepting anything less than what my children need and myself for that matter.
It is certainly worth trying mediation and I hope it works out for you
I wish you luck!