I had to spend money on the solcitors as her starting point was 60:40 split on £600k house and i was not happy with that. I also had to spend extra because my solicitor had a duty of care for her as she was LiP i.e explaining things. I also spend extra getting advice when i recieved a NMO. I spent extra on trying to get an agreement on 50:50 split , various letters, for her to suddenly turn round and then ask for 55:45 split!!! So more letters. Letters to get her court request costs reduced.
There was time i was prepared to fight more but on advice from my solcitor realised it would just be Pyrrhic victory. So i decided to back out.
My big mistake was getting a job, or if i did get one then make it a low paying one. Would have helped with CM and Spousal maintenance.
Lets not forget Spousal maintenance. I really dont get you are finally divorced to get away from ex-partner and you still pay money to the ex-partner. Mine worked out at 12 months with 4 months nominal but i have heard of worse cases.
yep utterly ridiculous & actually these crazy English divorce laws will kill marriage as more and more people get burned financially by it....As has been said, there is also a big problem with a significant amount of people setting honey traps for lonely older, well off people. marrying them, then after 2-5 years, divorcing them & taking half thier money....Why hasn't the government stepped in?....it's been going on for years in England...Probably because the legal profession earns millions from this misery....When I get my emotional strength back....I feel starting a campaign to get marriage laws changed, to make it fairer. I truly believe the lawmakers are wholly out of touch....society does not want divorcing couples treated in this totally unfair way.
Absolutely agree with the sentiments expressed here. There is a Bill currently in House of Lords (introduced originally by Baroness Deech but it fell as Parliament was prorogued), then re-introduced by Baroness Shackleton. It is the Divorce (Financial Provision) Bill and its aim is to deal with some of the injustices of the English divorce system relating to financial settlement. Sadly it's still not gone past 2nd reading and has to make it to the other house if it's to get anywhere. Apparently MOJ has already indicated that they do not support it. All the fuss that was made about No-fault divorce by the government and how it was going to improve the situation when they've no interest in dealing with the area which costs the most in terms of money and distress - that of financial settlement. The Scottish system seems much fairer and, as long as the needs of any children are still given priority, England should be making much-needed reforms to this area of divorce with regard to non-marital assets.
That is very interesting, do you have any links that people can follow to show support for this?
it would be great if there was some sort of online campaign to raise awareness of this bill.....I bet if the general public knew about it they would show Thier support for it.....
I would definitely support that bill. Seeing what my partner and others on here go through, its obvious the system is dated and flawed. I think a lot of the public would support a campaign to get that bill through if they knew what really goes in in financial cases.