Update and what I think
The 5 year separation bit is now out the window, due to the amended petition
And I have read somewhere www.terry.co.uk
That the 'statute of limitations' has indeed run out with regard to filing the UB
As I stated the UB is defendable in many ways, some of the allegations are just general, nothing specific, but in any case my wife has put
"For a large part of the marriage the respondent has been involved in a cycle of going into business which have then failed"
I have no defense on this other than none of the failings in business have directly impacted on the family, that is to say they did not suffer financially because of it. These allegations I take to mean from the last instance some 12 years ago
"This has lead to numerous situations where the petitioner (My Wife) has been afraid to answer the door and telephone due to people chasing payment"
This I take to mean of the major incident when a business collapsed within 4 months of setting it up, over 12 years ago, I won't go into the nitty gritty, suffice to say NEVER go into business with a friend
At that time I admit I went into a depression, but even then I was the only person to deal with the problem, I felt it my duty to and explained to my creditors what steps I was taking to clear the overdue amounts.
Again over 12 years ago, and I dealt with it, my wife was working full time, so it was impossible for her to have had to deal with anyone calling (Bailiff?)
There is no mention whatsoever of specific instances where she has had to deal with these problems, yet she further states:-
"When these occasions have occurred the respondent (Me) has failed to face up to the circumstances, has declined into depression leaving others to resolve matters for him"
I have already explained that above
"This has caused the petitioner considerable distress"
I have no doubt it may have been distressful, but it was 12 years ago and we did kiss and make up, we were living under the same roof albeit, a little bit estranged for a while
"The latest incident of this is between 2005, 2006"
My wife told me to leave on the 19th January 2006, I will never forget that date, because it was the last time I saw her and to this day I regret not arguing or doing something about it, but that said I was involved in an internet sales (eBay) and I used Paypal as my main internet Bank
Very, Very briefly Paypal blocked my account some time in November of the previous year 2005, al over a £60 order to Australia where the customer claimed none receipt, I refunded the payment instantly and Paypal continued to block my account, despite continuous emails and telephone calls, I continued to supply goods but was not getting the money from Paypal so I researched the internet to see if others where having a problem i.e. was Paypal likely to go under, and guess what I found:- www.paypalsucks.com
The horror stories in there defied all sense of humanity, they were sucking the lifeblood out of innocent law abiding people and due to their parasitical and monopolism way, they were untouchable, cut short I was dead in the water
Briefly again I know it's a saga, but my marriage depends on it
My wife and I were living about half/half independent lives it suited us and indeed we were better in ourselves because of it, however I ran the business from the matrimonial home
, and even though I had taken every step possible, a creditor rang the house to chase up an overdue account
This culminating in my wife who had taken the call now almost two years later, and is now petitioning for divorce and that is her only 'defense'
The calling at the door quote tells me something else 'Bailiff' and my wife told my son about 18 months ago that a bailiff had called and she had given him my phone numbers, to this date no bailiff has contacted me, which beggars belief, by the very nature of their business independent individuals who rely on collecting debts as a means of their income and they never contacted me, know one even knows what they were chasing, or who they were representing, so I will leave other readers to make their own minds up on that
“The final incident was the ‘last straw’ for the petitioner and since this time both the petitioner and the respondent have lived apart”
This final incident whatever it was, can only have happened almost two years or more ago, because we have neither contacted or spoken to each other in that time, other than by way of email at my wife’s’ insistence since the issue ‘out of the blue’ of her original petition, more update on what I think follows, because it is a sad day