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24 Jan 08 #11759 by Mrs Ingledew
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Well it didn't go as well as it could, but it could have been worse (I think!)

Turns out my solicitors had missed some protocol and the judge we were with is stickler for it.

However just meant sol got a slap on the wrist.

My stbx was asked to state his objections and he concentrated on the reasons for the marriage breakdown. And why he had left and committed adultery. He was despicable. He cited the adultery that I commited 10 years age (not) and the Judge's comment when my sol said I denied it was that the status was immaterial as in the eyes of the law cohabitation of 6 months meant the act was forgiven in any case. My stbx argued about the law being wrong! He was told that this was not a trial but to decide costs.

He then went as low as he could and said the "my wife told me she couldn't have children and then got pregnant. I stayed for our daugther". I was stunned. We spent months trying for our daughter even usng ovualtion kits (sorry to be detailed) and changing diet etc. How could he virtually say she was a mistake and forced on him - she is even called Abigail which means "fathers beloved" or as we always joked "daddys girl". I hope that he hasn't told this lie to his new family as knowing his partner if there is ever an argument between her and my daughter in the future she will throw that Abi was a trick and a mistake back at her.

The crimial damage was ignored.

The key point was the bankruptcy - and this considered in deciding a 50:50 split.

Still I got what I wanted a 50:50 split and nearly rid of him.

Possibly the worst day of my life apart from the day he went - and that's improved with hindsight.

All I can say is where is his conscience.

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