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Statement Of Issues?

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04 Mar 08 #15717 by scottishlady
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Hi....

I have an appointment with my sol tomorrow....
I think we have to put together a statement of issues....
I have received my STBX's statement of issues... he says very little really.... more or less, that he wants a 'Clean Break' regarding income....

What should I address when putting mine together?
Do I ask where all 'the money' has gone (he has claimed to have lost approx 20K gambling)...
I'm sure my sol will 'guide' me.... but, to be honest, I want to be a little prepared, as a half hour appointment with her doesn't seem adequate when I am trying to 'deal with my future'....

Do I 'agree' to a Clean Break at this point?

Would be grateful for any 'pointers' as to what I should include in this document...

Thanks
SL:)

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04 Mar 08 #15765 by DownButNotOut
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OK.

A statement of issue isnt a list of things about him taht annoyed you :)though that might be fun to write down.


It is simply a list of the areas where you are in disagreement still.

The judge wants a simple list that he can absorb in a couple of minutes that makes it clear to him what items are still in dispute....which also tells him how big the gap is between your two negotiating positions.

One of your issue is something like this:

1) He wants 50% of the house. I am asking for more than 50% because I belive that he deliberately squandered 20K gambling and so I want my half of that (10K) on top of the normal 50% from the house equity.

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04 Mar 08 #15771 by scottishlady
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DBNO.....

Ahhhhh..... I get it...... thankyou so much for that.....
I suppose my two main points of concern are :

1) The money that he took, and then 'disposed' of.....
2) I believe he is 'cohabiting' with his new partner.... therefore, I believe his housing needs are met...(although, the 'lady' owns a guest house, so I think he will claim he is living there as a paying guest)....

Lol, as much as I would love to 'state' the things that annoyed me.... I'm pretty sure the judge would have another appointment in, say, six months!!!!!;)

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05 Mar 08 #15789 by loobyloo
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HI
Im seeing my sol too re fh documentation and tbh even though been in the system and on here for a while now still myself not sure what to do
ts really hard to seperate the issues of unfairness and emotion from the cold financial facts(which s all dj interested in at end of day)
Yesterday my sol said could perhaps settle before by correspondance...what does that involve, and what has been the point of all other court hearings if settled without fh... am confused I want to go to fh as think will get better deal
tbh had enough of the whole thing but too near the finale to throw the towel in
looby

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05 Mar 08 #15790 by loobyloo
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HI
Im seeing my sol too re fh documentation and tbh even though been in the system and on here for a while now still myself not sure what to do
ts really hard to seperate the issues of unfairness and emotion from the cold financial facts(which s all dj interested in at end of day)
Yesterday my sol said could perhaps settle before by correspondance...what does that involve, and what has been the point of all other court hearings if settled without fh... am confused I want to go to fh as think will get better deal
tbh had enough of the whole thing but too near the finale to throw the towel in
looby

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08 Mar 08 #16140 by soulmanuk
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had my meeting with sol yesterday and the stbx is trying to claim half of the child benefit because it was paid into a joint account for 6 months as she would not sign the CHB form to say that our son was living with me. we was saving money in a joint account to buy our daughter a car ( which i have done since she left) but she wants half that money as well. thats the type of woman i was married too she is not happy to be screwing me over but she wants to do it to the kids as well. i had to borrow money of my mate who is also my daughter godfather because he did not want to see us homeless cos she refused to pay towards the debts, now she wants proof and documentation that he lent me the money. how can i do that?? she thinks i have £0000's stashed away i wish i had. i have struggled for 16 months to look after the kids and try to keep all the debts up to date as much as i can. she in the mean time as been enjoying an high life of holidays and nights out. on my form E i stated that i wanted a settlement which would give me the finances to look after the kids, all she wants is money to fund her lifestyle new car and new house, her housing needs are met as she lives with her new partner she wants me to sell the FMH. sorry to all the good parents out there but i think my stbx is a disgrace to parenthood and motherhood.
house worth £65k, equity after debt £27k, sol says i should buy her out. one problem my needs are £1300 p m and my earnings are £1100 p m how can i take on more debt??? i am very good at maths but i seem to be the only that can work the sums out, maybe i should be working in metric instead of imperial ha ha

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08 Mar 08 #16144 by loobyloo
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soulman
dont know if you are aware of my circs, but let me tell you Im married to the male version of your wfe...he is actually worse..so you have my sympathies and respect for being a great dad
looby
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