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28 Jun 12 #339775 by steve67
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i have a date for a court hearing after a c100 form sent to my ex partner,not married,for contact with my son.she refused mediation recently.will they just send me away with mediation or will i hopefully get a contact order with set times to see my son which is what i want.i am going to represent myself at this present time or maybe this isnt ideal?she will get legal aid.i rarely see my son its one way thing.

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The first hearing is normally with CAFCASS present - a conciliation hearing. Basically, the cafcass officer will speak to you both on your own and then together. Aim being to try and sort out the issues, narrow the differences and give the judge his views.

Handling this process correctly is important. Calm, child centered, solution focused.

I don''t believe at a first hearing the judge would make any orders that were not agreed by both parties. However, this may be the first of many hearings with contact moving forward in stages.

Representing yourself is a risk. Your personality will be much more exposed. If you come across as a committed parent and reasonable bloke it will count in your favour. If you seem angry, vengeful etc, it will be very bad. Not everyone is suited to representing themselves, key is the ability to control your emotions and think on your feet.

I would strongly recommend googling and joining families need fathers. They''re a great source of advice and support and I think the single most important step you could take to prepare yourself for the family courts.

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29 Jun 12 #339801 by steve67
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thanks,advice appreciated....

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