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C1A received. Apparently I''m evil!

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01 Jul 12 #340203 by u6c00
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So, got my ex''s C1A form in the post today accompanying a cross-application for residence. It made some awesome breakfast reading, really set me up for the day ahead!

I''ve been accused of domestic violence (completely fictitious), harassment (some suggestions that have no proof or are factually incorrect), lying in court statements (which is impressive considering statements haven''t been submitted to the court!) and alcoholism (because I occasionally went to the pub after work!).

Also, she ticked the emotional and physical abuse boxes for the children. That really made me annoyed.

So then I got to the part where you describe the abusive behaviour. She had to insert extra sheets to fit all of it in. These include such chestnuts as (I swear I am not joking) that I dropped out of university, and that I am going through the extended court proceedings. Correct me if I''m wrong, but neither one of those are abusive behaviours?

Conspicuously absent is any allegations/examples of physically abusive behaviour towards the children. There are some ''examples'' of behaviour that may be considered emotional abuse, although they are either factually incorrect or entirely fictitious. For example, I didn''t buy the children Xmas presents!? Erm... both children came to my parents'' house while she went and stayed over at her bf''s house on Christmas day, there are about 200 photos of the children opening their presents!

Now I have an opportunity to respond to this form apparently. Does anyone have any advice on responses?

Also, the court have sent a questionnaire that asks me whether I have any concerns of harm. I have raised all my issues with Cafcass, but the court questionnaire says if I do then I need to fill in a C1A myself. Any advice on how to fill one in without it seeming like a tit-for-tat revenge?

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01 Jul 12 #340206 by wmorris2
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She''s got herself the " how to play victim" manual - They all do this., Nothing in your post surprises me.

I would above all remain calm. Fill it in as honestly as you can.

The kids thing will sort itself out. But your ex might start to make other stuff up when things dont go her way (apart from your wallet of course that''s got to stay in the game and open for her)

It''s not usual to be accused of child rape, molestation, having child porn on your computer. I know people who have been through it all. And come out the other side with something.

I wish I had got my knife in first with my ex, she was indeed the one harming the kids. I just never got the chance to highlight it.

I hope that you continue to prove her wrong. In the end someones patience has got to wear thin. If CAFCASS don''t have a problem and Social Services are not involved then you shouldn''t have any problems at all. But as she''s the one making all the noise she may well draw attention to herself.

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01 Jul 12 #340207 by u6c00
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We weren''t married. This isn''t a reasons for divorce or anything like that. This is in a child contact/residence situation.

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01 Jul 12 #340209 by wmorris2
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Sorry I missed that bit. I have amended my response

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