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Paula3065
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26 Aug 12 #351984 by Paula3065

Topic started by Paula3065

I wonder if anyone can answer a question for me please, by the 29th which is in a few days I need to exchange with and file a Questionaire, statement of issues etc at court.

Now my Husbands Solicitor will not reply to me, so do I send her my statement etc anyway?

What happens if she does not send me his?

Or if I don''t get his shall I not send her mine?

I am confused

dukey
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26 Aug 12 #351985 by dukey

Reply from dukey

Its always best to do as court ask regardless of what the other side does.

If they are late make the judge aware, if they don`t do as court ask leave them to the judge to deal with.

Paula3065
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26 Aug 12 #351986 by Paula3065

Reply from Paula3065

Thank you

I just feel that maybe they are waiting for mine to see what I have put with no intension of sending me his then that way they can have advanced notice of what the Judge will be requesting and plan ahead.

dukey
Moderator

26 Aug 12 #351988 by dukey

Reply from dukey

There is no advantage in who send them first, the fact is your right at the beginning and you will both have to exchange before anything meaningful can actually happen.

Paula3065
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26 Aug 12 #351989 by Paula3065

Reply from Paula3065

I see many thanks

dukey
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26 Aug 12 #351991 by dukey

Reply from dukey

Don`t worry about it Paula this happens all the time and yes everyone worrys but you must do as the court order and leave those that don`t to the judge, many of which will not be bothered at all.

Once all disclosure is on the table then you can negotiate, if that fails its the FDR that really matters, this is the hearing where it tends to end with the help of a judge.

Paula3065
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26 Aug 12 #351992 by Paula3065

Reply from Paula3065

Thank you Dukey you have eased my mind somewhat.

When you have never been in this position before it is very daunting.
My husband lives in the Caribbean now so you can imagine, International Divorce.

Luckily I started it and being dealt with here.

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