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03 Oct 12 #359211 by SilverFir
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General question this one ... I''ll be attending First Appointment in December at a busy court at the end of the year.

How much will I have to interact with STBX then? Will he be able to approach me before the court session (to nag, berate, moan and belittle me)? How about afterwards, if I don''t manage to scarper fast enough?!!

Am I right in thinking that once in the court session, the judge is only interested at that time in the facts of the finances, and all whines/moans/emotional outbursts are frowned upon? I think STBX will be represented, so will he do any speaking or will his lawyer do it all? I really suspect STBX won''t be able to contain himself ;)

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If ex is being represented by a solicitor you will not need to interact with STBX at all. If you are self repping direct all your communication to the stbx''s solicitor and the judge.
STBX would have been warned by sol not to make any derogatory comments, and in any case the judge will not stand for any nonsense in the court room and will stop it immediately it begins.
If you feel there may be confrontation you can request seperate waiting areas at the court prior to the hearing.

Good luck

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