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OMG! ANOTHER ADJOURNMENT???? FH

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08 Oct 07 #4497 by dun
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Louise 11

Wishing you well in the 2 court hearing tomorrow, tried to PM you but mails are not going to your inbox - still techie issues I presume.

The best of lick and common sense from a judge tomorrow. :S

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06 Nov 07 #5944 by dun
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So what happened in the court ? was it adjourned again ?

My dp in similar situation - last hearing struck out - so the process starts all over again. s2bx still not responding to court orders and not submitting papers. so nothing can proceed.
when does it all end ? and how ? if one party blatently defies the court and ignores the due process of the law ?

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06 Nov 07 #5957 by Sera
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Dun/Louise,

I hear your frustration, but you have to agree one thing..that you got involved with a married man, that has not yet ceased being married to another lady.

I divorced first time 1999. After I took on a partner for 2.5 yrs who was going through a nasty divorce. I was the Buffer Zone.
Sometimes, when you've supported them through all the angst, (whilst living in a dark tunnel with only a glimmer of light at the end of it) ...sometimes, you become so involved in their dramas, that you no longer represent the bright, shiney new future that the man wanted.

After that experience, I would NOT get involved with a man unless he was totally free of a previous marriage, because I see the pain of having to live through the day-to-day dramas.

His ex sounds deliberately malisceous, but,
unfortunately, the Divorce system is slow. It is not Criminal court, but Family court, and it seems very little force is used to make people comply. (It almost seems an Option whether or not anyone adheres to rules and rulings!) The only thing you can hope, is to recoup legal fees from his ex, because of her stalling of the process, or his having to go to Court to get it all sorted.
I hope he has protected you in some way? He should have a new Will for instance.

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06 Nov 07 #5977 by Louise11
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Sera

There seems to be some confusion with you about me.

I met my husband nearly 3 years after he had divorced his first wife! THREE years, after their DIVORCE ABSOLUTE!

She started AR proceedings coming for a second bite of the cherry so to speak because when they divorced, they really had nothing to fight over!

Three years later when we got married she thought because he was financially better off because of me, she thought she could have half of what was mine, because half now belonged to him because he had married me!

I feel sorry for whats gone on with you and reading all your posts you seem very bitter but I can assure you, I DONT NEED protecting. The only reason I became involved in "the fight" was because his ex demanded to know everything about me! What I was worth ect, she wanted what I had worked for to give my children (being a single mum) when I met him!

Is he grateful I stood by him when she told so many lies about him, is he grateful when she tried so many times to split us up, is he grateful for me standing by him when at times he felt like chucking the towel in, but I wouldn’t let him? Of course he is, but i don’t do grateful! I did it A) because hes a good man and I love him and B)I did it for myself and my Children.
Will he stand by me forever? Who Knows? at this moment in time I Know he feels like I'm his soulmate and the feelings mutual. I know at this moment in time he loves me with all his heart and i knew it when we married. If in the future things don’t work out, so what, move on, life’s too short. Im not saying I wouldn’t be devastated because I would, but from my life experiences I know we as Humans can get over anything, we have to, its the way we are built.
So I hear what you are saying but please don’t tar us and our partners all with the same brush.

Kind Regards
Louise

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06 Nov 07 #5978 by Louise11
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Dun

Is your partner the respondant or the applicant?
My messages are working fine now.

Kind Regards
Louise.:)

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06 Nov 07 #5998 by Sera
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Sera

There seems to be some confusion with you about me.


Sorry for confusion on your case. BUT, I'm seeing many new partners on this forum, too involved in their spouses troubles, (which can't be good for a new relationship?)

I'm just warning of the potential pitfalls!

I hope your story goes to illustrate why a Clean Break divorce is essential for no further claims, so by either of us highlighting the problems, we can all learn from each others experience.

PS: I am not bitter. I am merely quoting from experience. I would not take on a man that still had dealings with his ex wife.

I hope you get it all sorted soon. :)

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06 Nov 07 #6005 by Louise11
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Sera

Ours is all sorted. I'm only here to help anyone who is or has been going through what we have for the past 3 years, because I feel if I can help anyone learn from my experience then isn't that a good thing?

As for your comment............"I'm seeing many new partners on this forum, too involved in their spouses troubles, (which can't be good for a new relationship?)"

I wish it were that easy! Not to be involved!

Lets hope "next " time you meet someone, they dont have a past, they dont have children, they dont have relatives and they dont have a former "wife".

Nice catch at our time of lives, but if there is such a person, think I'd be more worried why they have no past than what past they may of had.

Kind ones
louise

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