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Patner trying to get 2bx to file papers for court.
20 Oct 07 #5054 by dun
Topic started by dun
Partner has filed for divorce, plenty of notices sent to ex to try and get her to file. These were ignored, finally a court date granted but struck out because papers not ready 
So any advice on what to do next, it is most likely 2bx will continue to ignore requests to file and will continue to delay matters. HOW DO YOU GET THEM TO COMPLY WITH THE COURT ORDER?
I see plenty of posts where people are saying that divorce takes years - so what can you do to make it happen if the 2bx is just being 'pig headed' because she does not want you to have a divorce.
So any advice on what to do next, it is most likely 2bx will continue to ignore requests to file and will continue to delay matters. HOW DO YOU GET THEM TO COMPLY WITH THE COURT ORDER?
I see plenty of posts where people are saying that divorce takes years - so what can you do to make it happen if the 2bx is just being 'pig headed' because she does not want you to have a divorce.
21 Oct 07 #5058 by Sera
Reply from Sera
Reading others' posts; it seems that very little is done for non-compliance! Let's remember this is Family law, not criminal Law.
In 1999 after my first divorce, I attended a Family centre for the well-being of our son. It was full of men moaning that despite many Court appearances, and court ORDERS; their ex's still wouldn't allow them access to the kids...
Hence if they got visitation rights for a Saturday, they'd go around to collect; only to find ex wife and kids already out, (or gone to doctors, or whatever that weeks excuse was!) And these guys sat at this group with their piles of paper complaining that no matter what orders they'd had; there was not a Social worker, or Police officer in the country who would suddenly snatch the kids each morning from their homes; to make the wife comply!
I mention this, because the system is such that it does not appear to be imposing penalties; it almost seems like an optional extra to comply with divorce law - or not!
You will eventually get something done, but it may take a long while.
The Courts are busy, it's all a bit slow!
If she really doesn't want to have a divorce, he'll have to await seven years of seperation (I think!)
Sadly, that just seems the way it is.
In 1999 after my first divorce, I attended a Family centre for the well-being of our son. It was full of men moaning that despite many Court appearances, and court ORDERS; their ex's still wouldn't allow them access to the kids...
Hence if they got visitation rights for a Saturday, they'd go around to collect; only to find ex wife and kids already out, (or gone to doctors, or whatever that weeks excuse was!) And these guys sat at this group with their piles of paper complaining that no matter what orders they'd had; there was not a Social worker, or Police officer in the country who would suddenly snatch the kids each morning from their homes; to make the wife comply!
I mention this, because the system is such that it does not appear to be imposing penalties; it almost seems like an optional extra to comply with divorce law - or not!
You will eventually get something done, but it may take a long while.
The Courts are busy, it's all a bit slow!
If she really doesn't want to have a divorce, he'll have to await seven years of seperation (I think!)
Sadly, that just seems the way it is.
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