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16 Nov 07 #6842 by Camberwick green
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I was threatened with x-petition/defence if I petitioned my x2b on UB rather than agree to him petitioning me on adultery that never happened, bullying I know but I did it anyway.

What I need to know is if he defends or x-petitions do you have to go to court for hearings? Is that always the case?

We were only married 10 months before we split up and he has 3 other marriages behind him (all never lasting over a year), he lives and works in Germany and mediation/hearings would be extremely hard to do and expensive for such a short marriage.

I don’t know what to do or think :(

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16 Nov 07 #6845 by Specialdad
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After three marriages he should know the procedure by now.

I would hazard a guess that he is full of hot air and will not spend out thousands doing what he says.

Serve the petition on him and get the divorce asap would be your best bet.

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16 Nov 07 #6847 by Camberwick green
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Thanks SD, a lot of people are saying the same thing, I suppose the abuse doesn’t always stop after you separate and leave the marital home.

I just need to know what he will be told I guess

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16 Nov 07 #6850 by Specialdad
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Your ex ought to be told to stop wasting his and your time and get on with his life and leave you alone.

Legally he can waste as much money as he wants on x petition/defence etc, the judge will just award a divorce on the basis that both you want it so the result will the same. get a NMO if he continues giving you hassle.:angry:

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17 Nov 07 #6856 by loobyloo
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hi
Weell spdad right really . you need to get petition served and get nmo ... yoursol will advise you.
It wont bare any relevence that hes been mazrried before, but youd think hed after 3 times learnt not for him or perfected it.. sounds like hes insecure too
good luck
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17 Nov 07 #6859 by scottishlady
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Hi CG....

If it's of any help to you...I have been told by my sol that I don't have to go to mediation with my S2BX... even though I am publicly funded... because, we both live farther that 45 miles from a mediation centre... so, I would imagine that if he's living and working in Germany, the same may apply to you...
This will be my S2BX's 3rd divorce... lol... maybe he yearns for greener grass constantly !!!!!
I could be wrong... but as I filed for divorce, and it was lodged in a court near to me, my S2BX is the one who has to travel to any hearings...
Check with your sol or with CAB...
Kind Regards
SL

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17 Nov 07 #6869 by Camberwick green
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Thanks guys, lets just hope eh?

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