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21 Nov 07 #7210 by Mrs Ingledew
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My papers have gone to court for a date for the Decree Nisi.
Does anyone know when I start the finacial proceedings? I know I could ask my solicitor but I thought I'd do experience first.

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21 Nov 07 #7221 by OBEs 1 canoodly
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Hi there,

From what I know from experience, if you cannot agree the splits amicably (which actually would be the better route to take) then you can start Ancilliary Relief proceedings at any time. I think you must fill in Form A first but I am sure someone on here with more knowledge will either re-confirm this or set you straight if my information is incorrect.

My strongest advice to you would be to try first to come to some solution over finances with your ex as amicably as possible. Court hearings say that they work on "timings" but there are always lots of delays usually caused by the solicitors involved but also the courts are so very busy that this could go on for years and give you many sleepless nights to the point of despair. Sometimes it is better to take what you can get now and just carry on with the rest of your life in as peaceful and happy way as you can!! Why give yourself extra worry because I can assure you the legal side of divorce is enough to turn you grey very quickly (if you aren't already)!!!!!!

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21 Nov 07 #7222 by OBEs 1 canoodly
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Hi there,

From what I know from experience, if you cannot agree the splits amicably (which actually would be the better route to take) then you can start Ancilliary Relief proceedings at any time. I think you must fill in Form A first but I am sure someone on here with more knowledge will either re-confirm this or set you straight if my information is incorrect.

My strongest advice to you would be to try first to come to some solution over finances with your ex as amicably as possible. Court hearings say that they work on "timings" but there are always lots of delays usually caused by the solicitors involved but also the courts are so very busy that this could go on for years and give you many sleepless nights to the point of despair. Sometimes it is better to take what you can get now and just carry on with the rest of your life in as peaceful and happy way as you can!! Why give yourself extra worry because I can assure you the legal side of divorce is enough to turn you grey very quickly (if you aren't already)!!!!!!

kind regards

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21 Nov 07 #7228 by Fiona
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Just to add to the above you can't apply for ancillary relief until after the nisi because the court doesn't have the authority to make financial orders until then.

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21 Nov 07 #7251 by JLGsDad
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I'm on the other end, with some experience that may help.
My wife applied for ancillary relief well before I got any papers for the nisi.
A month ago we got a date for a first hearing (middle of Jan) and I've just sworn my statement for the nisi.
We're still doing mediation (God knows why since she won't accept anything the mediator or I say if it doesn't suit her), and this is unlikely to finish by the court date if we are to achieve anything.

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21 Nov 07 #7253 by Mrs Ingledew
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Definitely not amicable. Not on my side though just his - if I contact him I have been treatened with the police and being done for harassment! There also isn't anything to take our liabilities well exceed the assets. Just want to get this sordid affair over with - sorry bit of self pity there.

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my nisi and date for first hearing set same day... hope of help
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