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  • neerod
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31 Dec 07 #9751 by neerod
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I actually divorced back in April,and it was all agreed,we lived in the m/h, and agreed to sell,documents all signed with estate agent, also my ex signed a agreement that he would accept 140k, regardless of final selling price, witnessed by 2people. we also had a buyer.
There is a 17yr differnece between us,him being 17yrs older at 74yrs old.
He has 4children from he's previos marriage, youngest being a few months older then my own, we adopted both of them, making them, the only children in our marraige, we then had a son.
He's eldest daughter never accepted me, there was only a couple of years difference between us, hence animosity.
We divorced as I have said, and all was going well, untill 1stJune when ex had a stroke,he was hospitalised, numerous phone calls from a solicitor, acting for him (surpossidly)then served an ancillary order from this step daughter, claiming she had power of attorney, after numerous threats from her i took out a non-molestation order against her ( which she is now contesting I add)..
The dates were set for exchange of E forms, I complied, my sol passed mine over, but theres was invalid.
I have now been asked to furbish, bank account details,etc.
I have had 31yrs, of malice, from this step daughter, my ex is now in a warden controlled housing,I am still in the M/h.
What is happening is not between me and my ex, but a spitefull step daughter, has any body been there??
Happy New Year to all x

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01 Jan 08 #9769 by gone1
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I have been there neerod. I have 2 spiteful ex stepdaughters that did terrible things to me. The list is to long for this post. Thing is with step kids that there is no blood bond. You didnt make them. Like my step kids. I was dad while I was with there mum and as soon as she found a replacement I was gone in there eyes. They made my life hell and they were part of the breakup and bitter aftermath like in your case.

Nobody tells you this about stepkids. Its not like normal kids that have that blood bond to you. Thats why they treat you this way. There is no parent bond.

What I guess you have to do is deal with this step duaghter as if you were dealing with your ex as he is in no position to deal with it himself.

I feel for you I realy do. I wont say your age (its ok I did the math) and at this time of life you should be enjoying the fruits of your labours not doing what looks like a nasty divorce. I could be patronising and say pick someone your own age next time. But I wont mention it :)

Hope it works out for you. Keep strong. Happy new year. Chris.

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01 Jan 08 #9786 by sexysadie
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I'd just like to put in a word for stepchildren. Mine have gone out of their way to make sure I know that they are still my friends. Both have been totally supportive including doing emergency childcare and generally seeing that we are OK.

I am a stepchild twice over myself and I know it's a difficult relationship, but I just wanted to say that sometimes it can work out fine.


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