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31 Jan 08 #12434 by unic
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out there?

I am crippled by bills so far (had FA, FDR in April and then who knows)
Considering going it alone from this point on. Would be great to hear from anyone who'd tried it

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03 Feb 08 #12705 by DownButNotOut
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I successfully self repped as have quite a few other wiki regulars.

At FH the final order made was far more favourable to me than previous offers I had made and also the FDR outcome.

So it certainly can be done.

Most cases turn on the facts and the law. You do not need highly paid barristers to get a result. They may get you a few percent more....but a huge chunk of that or more goes on their fees.

If you assets up for grabs are over 500k then perhaps you should get a loan to pay for legal representation.

But if the pot is more modest then doing it yourself is certainly a viable option.

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03 Feb 08 #12730 by unic
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The asset in disput is the FMH. Value of about £300k with £30K mortgage. Long marriage, two children one 19, one 15.
How hard will it be to self rep?

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05 Feb 08 #12965 by Elle
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I am back self repping....only time any progress was ever made was when I self repped.....I found it scary as i had to cross examine my abusive x and i only had 4 weeks to prepare for my first hearing....this time I have less fear more knowledge and more time to prepare....
best of luck

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05 Feb 08 #12967 by SummerSun
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I didn't self rep and didn't think the sol and barrister were worth the money as I ended up doing most of the prep.

If I were doing it again - I'd self rep with some legal support to understand the process and court procedure.

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05 Feb 08 #12969 by peteringout
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Hi Unic,

I am self repping and quite frankly think that my wife is being both ill advised and ripped off by lawyer, but she will not belive me!! My dealings with lawyers in work are often through 'employment' issues, so a bit different from matrimonial ones. However, the principles are the same. Just need to know more about the legal aspects of marriage and the issues. Yes lawyers do the best they can for their clients, but only because they gain (financially) from it. And, the more protracted it is, or complicated they make it, the more they gain. Wifes Lawyer advises in each letter they send her that I get professional legal advice (advising that I line his pals pockets too).

Self repping is OK and cheap and so far (I dont think) much can go wrong as long as facts are correct.


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06 Feb 08 #12980 by Jacko
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I am also self repping, I am the respondent so im currently taking a reactive approach at the minute. Initially it can be quite scary but as you get into it becomes less so.

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