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Does STBX have the right to contact me?

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29 Jul 12 #345966 by LosingBattle
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Thanks shoegirl,

I would love to communicate by email only.
Alas, my STBX feels that a barrage of mis-spelt texts with constant demands & deadlines is perfectly acceptable.
.Unfortunately she feels that everything she texts me about deserves my immediate attention & a reply.
You, like me & any reasonable person too, may think that most issues need to be written in a calm, considered way and then the recipient should be allowed (within reason) to respond in their own time. She, however,does not.
I think that part of the problem is that she does not work & I work full time. I can tell when she''s bored as that''s when the texts come. Normally it''s when I''ve done a night shift & I''m trying to sleep!
I have asked time & time again to communicate via email, but these requests are just ignored. I will continue to tell her to put things into emails & send them to my solicitor as, to date, she never has. I will also start to field which ones I pass onto my solicitor.
Thanks for our help!

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29 Jul 12 #345973 by redwine47
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You could try blocking her number so you just get her emails.

My Stbx sends everything through the solicitor even minor issues (trying to bleed me dry)... I then get all this correspondence fwd to me for responses..... I have now decided to ignore and only respond back through solicitors if necessary.

Shocking how quickly these costs mount up.

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29 Jul 12 #345976 by LosingBattle
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Yeah, that''s my worry redwine47!

How do you get a number blocked?

Also, i dont want to be accused of not being contactable if one of my kids is in an emergency. Although, if (god forbid) that does happen, then my partner is contactable as are my folks, so that blows that arguement out of the water!

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29 Jul 12 #345977 by WYSPECIAL
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You can ask your service provider to block a number.

Alternatively you could get another number just for her. PAYG SIM plus top up for £5 tell her you''ve got a new number then just check it for texts when it suits you.

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29 Jul 12 #345979 by jslgb
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I had to change my mobile number, home phone number and block my stbxh off my facebook before he took the hint.

Now he contacts me directly through email and as i have a blackberry they get to me immediately. If he needs me whilst he has our daughter he emails me, although according to him she could be in hospital and he wouldnt tell me until she was due home.

If you have a smartphone you can download apps that will block numbers and you can use a hang up mode so it doesnt redirect to voicemail. I find that useful for the endless spam phonecalls i tend to get!

The suggestion of redirecting her emails to a different inbox is a good idea and something i would consider if i didnt need to receive them directly.

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29 Jul 12 #345980 by redwine47
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Easy to block on mobile..... Go into contacts menu pick the contact number then select edit.... and select block number...... May be different depending on phone..... Can be unblocked easy also. If a landlines do through ur provider. I just contact through email if at all saves any hassle & allows me to think about my response before sending....Good luck

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29 Jul 12 #345981 by LosingBattle
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Thanks, I may well just do that. I''m tired of having what little of my free time I have being interrupted by her!

Thanks for your help :)

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