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Do not agree on date separated

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09 Aug 12 #348487 by babaloo_123
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I need some clarification on the date of separation. Does it matter if my ex as the Petitioner, has a different date on our form E''s?

He''s used the date he took possession of a property he bought (which I didn''t know at the time), and moved out with some of his clothing a few weeks later from our rented matrimonial home saying its a trial separation. However, we still shared the same bed over weekends for a further 6 months!

Now looking back, I realize it was more to prevent me from becoming hostile towards him.

I''m self-repping and cannot afford a solicitor.

Form E''s were previously exchanged in Nov 2010 when divorce proceedings started, but we have yet to agree on financial settlement.

I''ve now received a Notice of First Appointment and have to file my statement with the court by early September.

I''m already so stressed by all this and will be needing all the help I can get on here.

Thank you in advance

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09 Aug 12 #348496 by dukey
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Just stick to the truth and add it to your statement, but don''t stress about this, the date of separation is unlikely to matter in the grand scheme of it all.

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09 Aug 12 #348526 by Stingrayj
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Mine put July 2008 on this Form E which came to quite a surprise as he had been back home as a fully functioning husband on 2 occasions up to July 2009. My solicitor says it''s of no consequence, but I guess the stbx was trying it on because of major asset shifting from that date and thinking it wouldnt count as marital assets.

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10 Aug 12 #348540 by babaloo_123
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Thank you Dukey and Stingrayj for your input and advice. Much appreciated!

My case is perhaps not as clear cut as in "normal" circumstances. Being a short marriage, having relocated from abroad to join him here and also having one dependent, perhaps makes it a bit more complicated.

I read the following on a family law site on how the courts might deal with matrimonial and non-matrimonial assets in a short marriage;

"Non-matrimonial property tends not to be shared equally, especially after a short marriage.
If, after the spouses separate, one of them goes on to acquire or create assets on their own those assets may also qualify as non matrimonial property."

I''ve had a previous topic around matrimonial assets on here but still not 100% sure on everything.

The more I get into it, the more complicated it becomes.

I''ll try and not stress too much about it and hopefully the court will see through his sneaky ways and come up with a fair resolution.


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