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12 Aug 12 #349068 by MrsSadness
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Ok, only been on here a few weeks. In the meantime, I have replied to new members, just welcoming them and ethusing about this site. I don''t post threads: I think just the one. Now I have come in here, having realised it is necessary for me to post under self-rep.. I hope my posts on my own journey will be helpful to all of you, facing this on your own. I have read all of back posts in self-rep - took hours and hats off a particular member, who has done and seen/suffered it all and has self-repped all the way. Respect! ( I hope you know who you are!)
Me, just starting out... no money, obliged to be LIP. Sturggled for weeks on wording of my D8 under UB..... got it just about right, I hope! Thanks to the posts I read on here. Fantastic site.. so many nice people who gice of their time.

Apparently I am now a Senior Boarder - since wrote so many posts in support of others, as someone who''s self esteem was run down by abusive R, any one new on here and reading this, I got some degree of confidence back by just having the nerve to post on here. I thank this site so much for just doing that, after years of domestic violence. I really don''t have to explain that and the effect it has on you... but any newbie, in N/W great resourses there.

I hope my forward journey through difficult terrains will be of some help to others obliged to be self- repping.Off to watch Olympics closing ceremony now! Catch you late.

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14 Aug 12 #349363 by amefbi
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Sadness, even if our stories is different its the same in the end of the day. Divorcing is painfull, and like me not having any money is scary, worried about our futures, how are we going to survive.

The anger and hatred for him, wishing him dead, and then feeling guilty again because of these thoughts.Sleeping 2hours a day. Having no friends and family to support you. Dont want them to know, they will not believe you, ashamed for being a failure.
Feeling strong one day just to come crashing down the next day.

I have been to hell and back many times, feeling so depressed and helpless. I want him to pay for hurting me,after all I did all these years. I just wanna get away and never see him in my life again, want this done now in the quickest possible way.

Sadness as you know my English way of speech by now, but this is a few of my emotions 2mths ago. I was reading post on internet and I just became stronger and slowly gaining my confidence again, but to scared of making a fool of myself that I might sound silly if I joined in. About a month ago I did join the wiki site and KNOWLEDGE IS POWER..I am not depressed anymore, no meds even, the wiki team and people is there to help us, even caring people that PM you. Even when I sound strange and ask weird questions? who cares, dont be scared anymore. You will and can do this.

Stay strong and big hugs from me.

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14 Aug 12 #349394 by amefbi
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Sadness

I have just read this and want to share with you.


www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Wikizine-Start...l-of-Acceptance.html

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14 Aug 12 #349557 by MrsSadness
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Thanks!

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