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self rep, can she tell me not to contact her sols?

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17 Aug 12 #350073 by BRC76
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After over one and a half of highly contested divorce, joint petitons, mediation, financial hearings, I have run up enough debts and loans that I have no choice to self rep. My ex has managed to retain all of our savings refused access to them to use to defend myself against her actions.

I have notified her sols that I am now self rep, my ex-sol has also update the court for me. I have contacted her sols about a offer the ex made directly tome to reslove matters, and the response has been that I must contact my ex directly, and not go through the sol. is this correct?

I think I should be working through her sol, but she wants me to not contact them on any matter and she has informed me that she has instructed them not to respond to me?

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21 Aug 12 #350953 by TBagpuss
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if she has solicitors, you should go through them, not to her directly.

If she is not using the solicitors any longer then they or she should sed you (and the court) a notice of acting in person, as you have done.

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21 Aug 12 #350958 by survive
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Yes I agree, she probably doesn''t want you to contact her sol as it will mean costs to her for her sol to read and respond to communication. Therefore I would suggest that you only communicate with her sol re: any relevent issues, keeping to the point in a polite and civil manner (not suggesting that you would do otherwise of course :-)). Just a bit of friendly advice

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21 Aug 12 #350967 by leanng
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What do you do if both ex and his solicitor ignore you.
My ex has parted company with his old solicitor just when i thought we had come to an agreement on split.
New solicitor has not even sent anything in writing to state they are acting.
Not too worried about lack of correspondence but i need to exhange form E by 6th sept.

Any ideas

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21 Aug 12 #350972 by survive
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I would write to ex and new solicitor (if you are sure they are acting) and maybe check with the court if new sol and old sol have informed court.

Keep a copy of letters and obviously wait to exchange once you have confirmation of the new solicitor.

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21 Aug 12 #350973 by BRC76
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Thanks everyone,

Been contacting her sols, and will keep responding via them when she contacts me directly. They are also playing games with every other aspect of this rather contested divorce. My expectations remain low.

not looking forward to the 3rd hearing, me against her sols and barrister, but what can you do? I have to get witness statements and updated form E and 25, etc ready later this year.

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21 Aug 12 #350975 by leanng
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i have just rung to check if they are still acting. at first they refused to speak to me.
Anyway the secretary answered. They will exchange on the day documents have to be placed in court i.e. 6th sept.

I do not know the new address of my ex.... neither do my children. He will not confirm.

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