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05 Jan 08 #10062 by stressedandsad
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My husband (soon not to be) due to me finding out he is a transvestite and possibly gay feelings, was asked to leave and did so. I have been left in the house and paying the bills etc. He wouldn't agree to divorce but now finally has. He told everyone that I threw him out for looking at girlie websites, so friends and his family hate me as you can imagine. I was selling some bits on an auction, my things and 2 items of clothing that originally belonged to him but we gave away as a present to my brother as they were brand new and did not fit. I replaced his clothes at the time. He hacked into my account and saw these things. He has now taken this to his lawyer and is using it as his amunition against me. I know it was stupid in hindsight but don't know what to do as it is his word against mine.I have sold some other things but they have been mine (clothes). Has anyone got any suggestions for a stupid idiot??

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05 Jan 08 #10063 by Fiona
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How did he get acess to your account? In the UK the gist of the Computer Misuse Act means that it's illegal for someone to make or collude to make a computer perform a function that secures access to data that they are not permitted access to.

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05 Jan 08 #10065 by Angel557
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i presume you sold them on a well know auction site did you get windows to save your password on your email address , did he go on there and get access to your account that way ?

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06 Jan 08 #10085 by DownButNotOut
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Stressed and sad,

I think what you really need to know is that you selling a couple of items of his clothing on ebay will have zero impact on your divorce settlement.

Honestly in the grand scheme of things 2 items of clothing is a complete irrelavance.

(This could only have an impact if it was considered financial misconduct.....and in the wording of the law such conduct must be "obvious and gross misconduct"....i.e. if there are not thousands of pounds of 'stolen' funds involved then forget it)

I promise you that no judge or solicitor will have the slightest interest in what happened here.

So.....

Thats one less thing to worry about. :)

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06 Jan 08 #10107 by topaz
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although what you said makes sense, I got a very nasty letter re disposing items from marital home to local tip from his sol to my sol, was told it was a serious offence.my x had said I was selling it even though he himself took it to local tip, after he had agreed previously it could be dumped. so haven't been able to de clutter or anything for past year almost.so it pays to be extra vigilant on this one.

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06 Jan 08 #10115 by stressedandsad
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Oh my god have I been really stupid - will I lose everything? What will they do with me?
I got rid of a load of stuff to the charity shop that he told me too. I wrote adverts for the local shop before I discovered what he was up to as he lost his job and I wanted to make us some money, they did not go up until after the divorce was started. When I passed the shop I asked them to take them down, but he probably saw these as well so this will be more amunition, it will only be my word against his. I have also done car boots but genuinely selling my stuff especially clothes from when I was much smaller and gift sets I was given due to being a nursery nurse. I thought pre xmas was a good time to do this. I had no idea I was doing anything illegal. I'm not allowed to do anything illegal due to my job. Oh my god I feel near hysterical now. What on earth am I going to do. I really want to run away now. I am dead and buried.

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06 Jan 08 #10116 by Angel557
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Don't worry , when i first started this awful jounrney my then sol told me i had to let him have his stuff i'm not that heartless and so i did pack it up for him and got my mum to drop it off at his parents house.I then meet a b/f and had some of my stuff at his when i split with him he threw all my stuff out before i had a chance to get it all my now sol bascially said well thats tough nothing i could do ,so don't worry.Like you say his word against yours , it was an an agreement to get rid of the clutter.

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