New relationships

My husband and i have been separated for three and a half months. He wants to come back but i dont want this. He says he wants a formal agreement that i wont start dating anyone else for at least six months. Can he do this? What are my rights? He says he will "take me to the cleaners" if i do start seeing anyone.

Annie,

I don't know the circumstances of your separation, but what I would say is that he isn't entitled to make any such demands upon you.

However, that said, my wife decided that we were separating nearly 12 months ago. Neither she nor I have started seeing anyone else. I actually have no desire to be seeing anyone else. I need to be alone for a time, to find me again.

Everyone is different.

I guess you have to ask yourself the question of how much interaction or co-operation will be needed between you and your soon-to-be-ex-husband over the coming months - if little or none, than give it to him straight - it's just none of his business.

However, if there are child, family, housing or financial matters to be agreed or dealt with directly with him, I would be inclined not to rub his nose in it. A formal agreement IMHO is just plain silly. Only you can answer that question.

Best of luck

Mike