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Is this a good thing or not

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16 Jan 08 #10869 by Shocked
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dh who has filed for divorce came with me to relate, it was a really good session (horrible in the other sense coz of all the s**t we had to drudge up) and he has agreed to come back, he has our child one day at the weekend and wants to see more of her, now the counsellor suggested he stay over at our house as I've no where else to go (initially he refused) he agreed to have a think about it and he has agreed to stay over on the sofa and he was adamant that he never wanted to be in the same house as me, I'm trying not to build my hopes up but he could quite easily (and he had already mentioned it) have said our child could stay with him at his mums. Is this the type of thing that couples do when divorcing??

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16 Jan 08 #10877 by Shocked
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anyone please

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16 Jan 08 #10888 by Fiona
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I think people do different things and I wouldn't read anything into it. My ex has stayed overnight in the past and it was meaningless.

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17 Jan 08 #10896 by Shiraz
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I agree with Fiona. Don't read anything into anything. Go with the flow. We're (see really fresh, still into coupledom) in the throws of a quickie divorce. Still living in the same space, sleeping in the same bed, but differently. Care enough to make myself late for a meeting because he's lazy about food and I can't bear to see him eating rubbish. What can I say........
Be totally in touch with who you are and what you find acceptable and work from there. :silly:

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17 Jan 08 #10900 by gone1
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I wouldnt read anything into it. Just ride it out and see what happens. But good luck and I hope you get what you want. Chris

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