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She wants back, but can I trust her?

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19 Jan 08 #11132 by robroy
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I thought we had split up. We have been separated for over 6 months, have an arrangement with the kids, and a financial arrangement in the mean time. She left me for another man, but now she is wanting back with me. It hurt so much when we separated, and I'm not sure I have the emotional energy to get back with her. At the moment I don't feel like having a relationship with anyone? I can't work out in my head whether I love her or hate her for what happened?

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19 Jan 08 #11136 by Josh2008
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By the very fact that you have doubts in your mind, I would say don't trust her, just yet.

You are obviously still hurting and it is too early for you to kiss and make up, especially under the circumstances surrounding the separation.

I would give it more time, maybe just visiting and talking would help, try and find out the reason for the betrayal, you at least owe that to yourself.

Don't get emotionally involved; tread carefully with goals in mind, if that's what you want.

Time will tell whether you can forgive, but whatever you do, don’t 'Go Back' without knowing why it happened in the first place.

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