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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

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Paying bills till house sold

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20 Jan 08 #11207 by megan
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My husband who left 2months ago due to his affair e-mailed me on my birthday to say he will stop paying everything except half the mortgage. This leaves me with £145 month to live on even though I earn £2000. If I e-mail him to tell him this it gets into a slanging match. If I leave it to sol to go for maintanance it will cost us in sol bills. That is the one thing he doesn't want. Any advice

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20 Jan 08 #11216 by gone1
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I think you have no choice but to go for an interim maintence order. This can be done quickly. This should make him change his mind. Although he is within his rights to only pay half, its counter productive as both of you will one day have to get another mortgage and missing payments looks bad on your credit report. I would defo have a word with your mortgage provider and see if you can have a payment holiday whilst you get things sorted. You cant live on this small amount each month. Its a form of control and abuse. Totally absolutely wrong. Chris.

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20 Jan 08 #11218 by megan
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Hi Thanks for that. Unfortunatly when he was planing to leave me (although I had no idea)He took a mortgage holiday to build up a leaving fund.
You think you know people eh!

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20 Jan 08 #11219 by gone1
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Yea true. Nice man you had. Well U are rid of him and thats the important thing. I would still have a chat and explain things. I would also get the interim maint order going. My ex saved money whilst we were married. Not sure if it was a survival fund. She also cashed in 2 7K Nationwide bonds and gave her BF 9K to settle a debt. What kind of bloke takes money off a women huh? This money was supposed to be for our kids. On her form E she said that the kids had lent him the money. There is some shite people around like your ex huh? Chris.

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20 Jan 08 #11239 by Josh2008
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Agree with Chris; go quickly for the periodical payments

Note your income is £2k p.m. if net, pay the mortgage first as them there lenders have got very itchy feet at the moment and could easily slam a repossession order.

For the moment try and reduce as much as poss. other outgoings....pending outcome of maintenance order


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20 Jan 08 #11248 by soulmanuk
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mine stbx walked out on me and kids 15 month ago, she as not paid a penny towards the bills i am - £300 a month short. i am paying mortgage but not a loan secured on the FMH. she is living with her new partner debt free, taking holidays getting rat arsed most nights and keeps changing her job for a job that is lower paid than the previous oneso she has to give me lower CSA. i asked for a mortgage holiday in October but could not get one unless she signs it as well but she as refused to sign it. i now have a bad credit rating which i have never had in my life (now 47years old. all the sol said its all my fault cos i should have sorted it out by now but the stbx will not do anything unless it goes through a solicitor, i have no money and the legal aid as cock up my application and my sol wont do anything unless i pay her £100 a month. beat that for money and housing worries

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20 Jan 08 #11254 by megan
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soulmanuk your right some people have got it worse than me.
I look as if I'm loaded as 3weeks before he left we had a new very flash car which I am now tied into for 3 years with my job. Have to use it for work but without it I would have been ok. Drove around for 5years in an old banger orderd new car in June. Hadn't made one payment on it when he left!

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