Could be a while before I get the answer to this as my H has stoped paying the bill and I am waiting for reconnection.
He told me I have to start paying half the mortgage but the letter from his sol. says I should continue paying half the household costs. I already pay everything except the mortgage. If I include my car which we agreed to in June but got 3 weeks before he left I am paying £1200 per month and he £750. Who owes who? we take home the same.I am living in the FMH he with family member till he moves in with her.
You are stuck in the grey zone between marriage and divorce.
When you are married you share everything. Once you are divorced the court orders will determine who pays what.
But right now...there are no formal rules.
You just need to try and co-operate sensibly.
If he is not playing ball and you are stuck with high expenses and little income then there are only a couple of things you can do:
1) Is the obvious...to cut back on things as much as you can.
2) Is the more formal...make an application to the court for him to pay you interim maintenance until the final financial agreement is settled. Perhaps even telling him that you may be forced to go to court for interim maintenance may make him see sense and pay you some more each month.
3) Also make sure that you are receiveing all of the benefits that you are entitled to: check out www.entitledto.co.uk