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08 Jul 07 #1237 by mick_dan
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I am soon to apply for divorce and really not sure what to use as a reason?

My wife is the one who wants the divorce for Irretrievable breakdown of marriage but there has been no abuse or adultery and we don't really want to separate and draw it out.

I take it my wife should be the one to petition anyhow, but what should she put? I guess unreasonable behavour for all the arguments? although I don't want this to go bad in my favor and look like Cruelty as there hasn't been any... she simply fell out of love!

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18 Jul 07 #1450 by gone1
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mick_dan wrote:

I am soon to apply for divorce and really not sure what to use as a reason?

My wife is the one who wants the divorce for Irretrievable breakdown of marriage but there has been no abuse or adultery and we don't really want to separate and draw it out.

I take it my wife should be the one to petition anyhow, but what should she put? I guess unreasonable behavour for all the arguments? although I don't want this to go bad in my favor and look like Cruelty as there hasn't been any... she simply fell out of love!

Thanks


So you are saying that she is divorcing you? There has been no adultary or any wrong doing. My wife is divorcing me for unreasonable behavour. She is legaly aided so it was easy for her. She was the one that commited adultary. What we did was made up the reasons. I chose oposites. Think of all the good things you do or have done and turn them around. Like do you do homework with the kids? Make that into never does homework with the kids. Are you careful with money? Make that into careless with money. Ok you get the idea.

I dont know what you mean bad in your favour. Divorce in this country is no blame. There is no blame attached to any of it. Its a paper exercise. It doesent matter who does what. In fact if she is divorcing you why not admit adultary? Its a little box you tick and no proof is needed. Its all the same in the end. You get your divorce. Chris.

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18 Jul 07 #1456 by Dobber
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Guys if at all possible,, go to mediation get the assets split , get it on a Consent Order then do the actual divorce yourselves or online. Unreasonable behaviour is the fave but it makes unpleasant reading when the petition drops on the mat. I,m just sticking my hand up for adultery , just to get the whole thing over & done with. Dont worry about costs being awarded against you , see if you can split the costs 50/50 with the ex. I mean once all the ballache of splitting the assets is done , then how much is a quickie divorce ???? couple of hundred each ? The divorce its self is only a paperwork exersize. Of course this will only work if your on civil (ish) terms with the ex. This is how we are doing it & I,ve only seen a solicitor twice. Once when wwe first split (complete waste of time , use the CAB) & then again to get the consent order. Dont need him anymore. Should all just sail through now.

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