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30 Jan 08 #12388 by Ladybird22
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Is it best to petition for divorce or let your x2b do it? Are there any advantages or disadvantages? thanks.

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31 Jan 08 #12403 by Elle
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I petitioned, however lawyers have made me respond to the motions of the respondent for nearly 8 years.......well not for 2 of them when i represented myself and actually won both hearings....I have returned to self reppin...it seems the only way i will get closure...and whether he continues to keep the 96 per cent he has to date I dont care....I just want out of the whole mess without murdering a lawyer!
Best of adcice I can offer from my experience is find out what ur entitled to and dont let the lawyers badger u in the court corridors
Good luck
Elle

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31 Jan 08 #12407 by gone1
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I am nearly divorced. I let my ex divorce me as she is legaly aided. But she was the one at fault. Seemed poetic justice to me!!

Advantages:

You get to control the pace. You are on the attack and its much better to be in an attacking position than defending as any soldier will tell you.

Disadvantages:

Your always on the backfoot. Any boxer will tell you thats bad. Your always defending. Not good. You dont get to control anything. It costs you nothing. Thats good.


Main decider for me was money. It would have cost me another £1500 to divorce her. I came away with nothing and I needed every penny to survive.

If I had the chance again? I would divore her. I am an ex soldier and I hate defending. Sod the money. Hindesite is a wonderful thing. I would love to stick that petition right up her harris!!.

Chris.

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31 Jan 08 #12490 by Ladybird22
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Thanks. I didn't really want a divorce and I've done nothing wrong so in principle I was going to let him divorce me. Surely justice will rule on my side! (is that niaive?) or at least I won't have to pay.

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31 Jan 08 #12491 by peteringout
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Hi Chris,

My STBX is also on legal aid and I am repping self. She thought legal aid is that its all free. Its not. They have to pay it back at the end.

Peter

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01 Feb 08 #12518 by gone1
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Thats true Peter. But it depends if they get a lump sum. My ex got a lump sum. I saw her legal bill and it comes to about 7.5K ouch!! Perhaps there is a god haha. Chris

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01 Feb 08 #12574 by Ladybird22
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Hi Peter/Chris,
What happens to legal aid if there is no lump sum at the end and you are on benefits? Will it still have to be paid back? thanks

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