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31 Jan 08 #12447 by scottishlady
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In the 'Questionaire' Re my form E.... from my STBX's solicitor...
It says "Why does the daughter only pay £20.00 per week board and lodgings"... and "what is her net monthly income?"

Our daughter is 22 years old... and has paid £20.00 per week 'board' for a long time.... which my STBX is well aware of... and has never had a problem with...

She is a care worker... and earns anywhere inbetween 200 & 300 pounds per week...(agency work)

Are they now going to tell me that my daughter has to contribute more?


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31 Jan 08 #12448 by mike62
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Its a whittling tactic. He's just trying to shave a bit off on his side.

Play him at his own game - put her board up (on paper) but find another expense to compensate - nett result = £0 :P


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31 Jan 08 #12456 by soulmanuk
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i was told by the credit card company to take more board off my kids to pay for the debt that my stbx refuses to pay. while she is enjoying holidays and nights out allegedly paid by her new partner.(according to his divorce the stbx was paying for all that ???) what a terrific mother she is

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31 Jan 08 #12458 by Josh2008
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Two things Scottish lady

One what on earth has your adult daughters earnings got to do with his responsibilities, what if she was to move out in the foreseeable future

Why you are only taking £20 p.w. when clearly you will be out of pocket - up your daughters board - but sufficient as to not profit from it

Declare on Form E (If you are obliged to) the exact board amount and the exact cost of that - result = £0.00

Tell ex where to get off

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31 Jan 08 #12469 by scottishlady
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Thanks all for your comments....

As Mike says.... it's probably yet another tactic from him to reduce his 'obligations'....

My daughter has a bank loan that costs her £260 per month (she wanted a new car)...
She pays her mobile phone bill which is approx £100 per month...
Her car insurance is approx £80 per month....
She pays me £80 per month board....

As Josh says.... what on earth has her income got to do with his responsibilities???:angry:

Although she pays £20 per week board... she buys a few groceries.... and helps out with any 'bills' that come in... so, personally, I consider that she contributes enough....
I will, however take on board... the above, very sound advice


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01 Feb 08 #12519 by gone1
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No. They wont and cant. But they may ask for additional disclosure to glean proof that she is only paying £20. Seems daft that he is asking this but its all about cards on the table. The judge dont know what she is paying you. The other side are sure to put this in the questionair when asking the court to make a judgement. They may also ask you to informaly list her earnings. Its all part of the game. Swim down stream. Chris.

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01 Feb 08 #12525 by unfairtome
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apparantly board should be a third of there wages, so ive read somewhere anyway, so dont slate me

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