My ex left to live with her. He says he has the right to unlimited access to our house. Whilst I accept that he has a right to access as he still part owns it does he have the right to enter at any time or do I ahve the right to ask for this to be reasonable and convenient to me?
Awaiting reply from lawyer - but would like your views.
Yes you are correct that he has rights of access, however it would be unreasonable for him to turn up unannounced and without reason.
If he wishes to collect/remove belongings then you should agree mutually convenient dates/times for this.
It is common courtesy to attend the property with agreement from yourself and you should remind him of this if relations are to remain amicable between you.
I would also suggest that you do not do anything drastic either, such as changing the locks. This will prevent the sitatuion from escalating. If you are concerned that he turns up "with other intentions" then you would be able to call the police if you felt there would be a breach of the peace.
My ex turned up unannounced, let herself in, and even came into the bathroom to start an argument whilst I was taking a bath!!!
It cost me £35 in a solicitors letter to advise her that this is not the way to carry on and politely ask her to show some common courtesy!! Can you imagine the allegations I would have exposed myself to had roles been reversed in this situation?
Dockley is correct from a legal point of view so theres nothing I can really add.
It should be all about common courtesy really. I wouldnt have dreamt about letting myself into FMH without telling Ex. Within the next few weeks I am hoping to remove some more personal items, it would have been easier to do this while he was on holiday but didnt think it appropriate. I need to build up trust because at the end of the day we will need to communicate about the kids for a long time to come and I dont want it to get more difficult than it already is.
From your post it appears you are already getting legal advice. I hope it works out for you and you have a worry free weekend.