This might be a really easy answer for some of you, dare I say '' Experienced people'' out there. I am in the process of divorcing my wife but we have agreed to separate first and have also agreed that if I give her an agreed lump some she will not ask for anything else and will walk away. How can we make this legally binding?
Dont just give her money. What you need to do is draw up an agreement that this is a Clean Break settlement. Get a solicitor to finalise it and she must also take it to a solicitor. You both **must** seek legal advice for this agreement. There is also a cleen break form from HMCS that your sol should submit to have this turned into an order.
The problem with agreements of this kind is that unless the person signing has not been given legal advice then it can be dismissed later. Make sure that both of you have sought legal advice. Dont hand over any money until you have. Ask me how I know this. I was caught out in exactly the same way. Chris.
What you are talking about is a clean break settlement between you and your wife.
Can't remember your circumstances exactly. Do you have children? If so, you can't have a completely clean break, as you have child maintenance obligations until your child reaches 18 or 19 in full time education.
You can still have a clean break as far as your obligations to your wife go.
Suggest that you set up an appointment for mediation and agree a fair settlement between yourself and wife. Once agreed, this can be written up as a Consent Order and incorporated in your divorce. You both need to take legal advice before a judge would accept the consent order.
Best of luck broken1, I know what a nightmare this has been for you already
I have a 16 year old stepson. I have also already agreed a ''fee'' with my wife want I dont want to happen is to end up paying for the stepson as I think that is so wrong. Can I just get her to sign it without legal advice?
No, father is around but despite having a nice house and flash car can't afford to pay anything towards his son. CSA gave up ages ago as he is a builder and gets cash most of the time.
So I have supported them both for the last 7 years, 3 married.
Things are so unfair. How can she tell me that I have done nothing wrong it's just her wild side that lead to her sleeping around but it's me that is getting punished for it.
The only thing you did wrong was marry her. Learn to be cynical. Its self protection. In future ask yourself searching questions. The real crime is not to learn by mistakes. Dont get caught again. If you are young enough find someone who does not have children and have your own with this person. Blood children are more likely to stay with you then stepchildren. Stepchildren are only yours when you are with the mother. Seeing as most children side with mum then you are history. Its common. Bad but true. Chris.