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05 Feb 08 #12883 by phoenix1
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First of all please don’t get me wrong this is a great site and I don’t know where I would be without it and the support that I get on here, but could I please make a couple of suggestions to improve it??

Now some things I might not have found yet so if they are already here I’m sorry.

1) I came on here originally only thinking about divorce and what I would have found really useful would have been a list of my options like counselling services, like Relate, and what they can offer. What are the first stages on the road to saving your marriage? What do you and your partner need to do? I’m sure some people on here are trying to find answers on how to save there marriage.
2) A list of what the commonly used abbreviations mean, Might be just me but it took me about a week to figure out what some meant.
3) A guide to what each of the follow are. Separation Agreement, Consent Order, D8 form? And many others.
4) A list of useful telephone numbers, CSA, Relate, Samaritans, Shelter, family welfare, to name a few.

Don’t get me wrong, Great site, but unfornunatly there will be many more people following us here and I’m just trying to make it a bit easier for them.

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05 Feb 08 #12906 by gone1
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I am sure Ian is watching. Divorce is a long drawn out process. You will have plenty of time to imerse yourself in it and its a big thing. For most people its a life changing event like no other. Samaritans is a good idea. They are not only there for people about to top themselves. See www.samaritans.org


Have a look at the FAQ. I cant say that I have ever read it as by the time I came here my marriage was over and the divorce was well underway.

Chris.

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06 Feb 08 #12994 by peterc
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broken i agree with you!

i think that this site is really for those people who are divorcing and not the people going through the emotional whirlwind that is caused by an affair or marriage breakdown.

I have actually had to stop myself reading the site because it is making me ill and making me think too much about ahead instead of the consequences of now :(

I do not have any way to deal with the now in my life, i am going to councilling - but even this is very hard for me to do.

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06 Feb 08 #13009 by gone1
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Peter. I disagree with you. I have replied to numerous posts that you have made and others have too. This site is about all aspects of divorce. Those thinking and those doing and those done. Its also not just about money.

The discuss anything section is frequented by lots of people that have the same issues as you. I am in the same boat as you and as are many others. My wife cheated on me and subsequently did awful things to me to dispose of me any way she could. I know what its like to be in your shoes.

We are lucky that this site exists at all. When I started there was nothing. And all of us had to face it alone. You are not alone. You got us. Chris.

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06 Feb 08 #13011 by phoenix1
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I don't want people arguing about what this site should and shouldn't do I am just trying to make it easier for the next lot of sorry souls who follow us. Chris, you said that this site was nothing when you first came on here, so it has evolved since then and so it must continue to evolve.

We are all on here for, overall same reason, marriage problems, Divorce is the final conculsion but wouldn't it be great if we could help others to save there marriages? or make the road a less painfull one?

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