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15 Feb 08 #14004 by twinks
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Thank God it didnt arrive yesterday. I am the one filing, so feel a mixture of, 'Thank God its here' as I was dreading the postie every morning, s2bx still lives here, and 'what the hell will his reaction be' As although I have said that I am filing, I dont think he really believes me.

How do you hand the papers over, with a cup of tea, a large brandy?

I never imagined how emotionally draining this could all be, and I am not even past the first post yet.


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15 Feb 08 #14006 by dukey
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Well done twinks think of it as the first big step tacken, and your quite right emotions do run high and reactions are not easy to forsee, think i would go with a cup of tea brandy wont help and may make a bad sitiuation worse, i hope it goes as well as can be expected for both of you keep us all up to speed and good luck, dukey :)

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15 Feb 08 #14055 by twinks
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How about if I have the brandy and give him the cup of tea ;)

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15 Feb 08 #14059 by sexysadie
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I'll go with that suggestion, though maybe not too much brandy as you'll want to have your wits about you.


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15 Feb 08 #14063 by mike62
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I know this is really troubling you. Best of luck however you decide to do it. It is the end of one era, the start of another. Take care, Mike

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15 Feb 08 #14065 by attilladahun
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Twinks so you know he got the Petition yesterday...so he has 8 days under the rules to file Acknowledgement of Service
Now do I take it it is a behaviour Petition...cos if so the trick is after 9 days get Solicitor to prepare an application for deemed service supported by a sworn statement that you know he received the Petition yesterday.

He can the also prepare an Affidavit in support of Directions for Trial and the Request for Directions for trial and deliver it to the Court and if the office get it before the DJ asap the Court is asked to place the application for deemed service before the DJ and in the same letter ask that subject to the DJ granting the order can the DJ deal with the Request for directions for trial...

Now if all goes to plan before H gets an appointment with his solicitor and/or they action a letter etc the DJ has granted the order and signed his/her DJ's certificate that you are entitled to a decree and hey presto the first he gets to hear about it is a date for the Decree Nisi and possibly if costs are applied for a certificate saying he is likely to have to pay the costs:)

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15 Feb 08 #14075 by topaz
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I didn't hand the petition over to my x as it was addressed to him,I left it with his other post and didn't say a word, neither did he until next day.So it was a delayed reaction on his part.We were and still are in the MH.you'll get through it don't worry.If you feel emotional anytime just leave the room ,any excuse works.Once you can get past the emotional moments, you are stronger and much more able to cope.To my x,emotion was a sign of weakness in me so I didn't show any in his presence.it did and still does work.

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