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18 Feb 08 #14271 by Emalou33
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Hi,

My name is Emma, I am 33 with a daughter Imogen who is 10. My husband left me Feb 07 for another woman at work. I thought we were happy and had been sending and receiving cutesey mails to him up until he left, we also had an active social life, and a good physical relationship so the wind was seriously blown out of my sails when he told me he was leaving. I was gutted and spent the next 9 months begging him to come home, from Feb to April he came and stayed at weekends to see our daughter and we regularly had intercourse although both saying it would not change anything (I desperately hoped it would), I did not realise at the time but he was still with the other woman as well. He sees our daughter Imy about once a week and does not call her at all the rest of the time, she is very cut up but cannot tell her Daddy how she feels, she is very repressed.

I am currently divorcing him, he would not acknowledge so i had to have papers served, I am stuck in FMH and have £10.5K in redemption penatlies to pay if I move but he won't help me to keep the house going. He gives £500 per month to me for Imy and the home, and payd £300 towards her school fees as do I. He is on £55K plus £8.5K car allowance and I earn £31K, he rents a flat for £500 which he has not furnished, and our little girl has to sit on the floor to eat her tea. I have a Maintenance Pending Suit hearing on 29.02.08 and full ancilary relief proceedings on 01.05.08.

Tomorrow I am going to hear the Decree Nisi pronounced and see if I can get costs awarded against him, as I never wanted to split in the first place.

Despite all of this I still have feelings for him, although they range from despair to love to anger to frustration and back again in ten minutes flat.

Sorry it was longwinded!! As you probably all already know there is an awful lot more to it!!!

Looking forward to making friends

Emma

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18 Feb 08 #14274 by gone1
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Hi Emma. Well thats about 9000 freinds you just made!! Welcome to the site. Your words dont describe how awful you must feel. I know the feeling of rejection and the feelings of wanting him back. I dont want him back cos hes a bloke and I dont know him. Sorry trying to cheer you up :)

Chris.

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18 Feb 08 #14275 by mike62
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Hi Emma,
Welcome to Wikivorce. You will find an awful lot of good people here, who know exactly how you are feeling and will give you the very best support and advice they can.

So much to read here - so many lives laid bare, so many lessons learned or to be learned, so much hope and recovery.

You will find the chat room a lively place, particularly after 9pm. People like to forget their problems and have a good laugh, but will always answer a question or offer a virtual hug if you are down.

Sounds like you are well on your way through the process, albeit having issues (like so may).

Best of luck with things

Mike

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18 Feb 08 #14276 by Emalou33
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Thanks mike - kind of you to respond, doing my best to get through - wish I had found the site sooner --Emma

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18 Feb 08 #14296 by Emalou33
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sorry Chris meant to say thx earlier, read your blog, you have really been tru it, hope you are on the road to happinessxx

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