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23 Feb 08 #14846 by needhimout
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I only posted my first message yesterday, and boy have things moved on,yesterday i thought that maybe my husband was depressed and under pressure at work, he announced last week " i don't love you like i used to" i love him so much,he has ripped my heart out and i'm in turmoil, i wanted to see if we could try and make it !!.

He came home from work and said " i feel better for being honest with you"... i asked if there was anything we could do, he said No, thats it i can't change the way i feel..

He wants to stay together in the same house and finish a couple of jobs before we sell( my daughter is due to take her GCSE's in May) !!!, he is being really clinical about everthing, he has decided how things are going, and i'm expected to go along with everything, to go on as normal until the time comes when we have sold the house and apply for divorce ... its like a nightmare, my head is all over the place, and i'm really hurting...

Its him being matter of fact about everything, like he has forgotten how we where not so very long ago, i was completly oblivious to anything being wrong..

I feel like a real loser for loving him so much and thinking he loved me and wanting to grow old together..

I don't know how to cope !!,I just want someone to hug me and tell me i'm going to be ok ..

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23 Feb 08 #14847 by peterc
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hey nitaooo - try to look after yourself, i know its hard, but you are in shock at the moment, and you dont have any tools to deal with it. Go and see your doctor, they will be able to help you - dont be embarrised by it - they will be able to help you.

Also - have you considered going to relate? - this can help you identify the problems and may help you resolve them.

We all need to have a hug - Keep posting here for support and use the chat rooms for help.


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23 Feb 08 #14850 by needhimout
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Thank you so much for your kind words, i suppose there will be different feelings that come to the surface, and i'm already having a rollercoaster of emotions, i just can't grasp whats going on, i feel at the moment i deserve all of this, i was married previously and i walked out on him, sort of what go's around and all that.

myself and my first husband had children together, and even though we split up we stayed good friends, my ex never really settled down again, but 6 months ago he died in a motorbike accident,so i have had that to deal with ! the children were his next of kin and i have had to help them cope with the loss of their dad, who meant the world to them(i lost my first love), and also deal with all the legal side of it, and on Monday we have to attend the Inquest !!..

I don't know if all this has contributed to a breakdown because i keep asking questions and getting the same answer, " i can't help the way i feel", so thats that i just have to get on with it... why is life so cruel ?

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