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01 Mar 08 #15466 by mahua
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Have just read the posts from Booklady and am in similar situation xcept the in my case the children are younger which is making me think a million times, but for me it feels as if I am living in a perpetual funeral and the corpse is my marriage,
Hubby seems to have just realised what is at stake and agreed to see a counselor and change his controlling behaviour but ...
For me it carrying on being married to him would be flogging a dead horse.
Advise and answer please..HELP
Would it help to see a conunsellor if I feel so strongly ?
What I say to the counsellor about him and our marriage, can that be held against me when it comes to court battles ?

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01 Mar 08 #15490 by dukey
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Hello Muhau

Im sorry you feel all hope is gone only you can know this for sure.
Counsellors to help for some and not for others if you do try do it with an open mind, what is said there should be private.
Divorce is granted on a no fault basis so who says what counts for nothing nor do the factors listed in the petition that led to the end of the marriage.
Divorce can be brutal and emmontionally draining so think long and hard before you decide

Best wishes

Dukey

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03 Mar 08 #15645 by mahua
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Hi dukey
thanks for the response ..it is a bewildering jungle of emotions..and this is when no legal battle has commenced,

Have just spoken to the man who is husband and it is only now that he realises that we are talking seperation not about mending fences....
Men please answer me this... is it only him or are men generally deaf... all these years in every argument over the silliest things to the most serious issues the word separation and divorce has been used between us and he says he did'nt realise thins had come to this stage and is now ready to change himself and his behavoiur!

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03 Mar 08 #15648 by dukey
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Sorry speak up didnt quite hear you :)

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03 Mar 08 #15649 by dukey
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Sorry speak up didnt quite hear you :)

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04 Mar 08 #15695 by mahua
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Exactly my point !! ;)

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04 Mar 08 #15696 by mahua
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We are going for counselling today ..will write the next episode after that...scared, confused but determined ..there seems to be light at the end of the tunnel.... oooh the rollercoaster ride of life, marriage, divorce!!

Have read up on emotional, verbal and physical abuse and have realised that I have been living in denial all these years...It can't be happening to me kind of denial...this happens to other people kind of denial.
Thanks to everyone who have been listening to me offload my bags .

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