Message from Hubby

After a draining day in court with my H the other day I got this message, he left me for another woman 14 months ago, and I am still in love with him. We did not speak to each other all day - does anyone have an opinion on what this means? I am so gutted and I do not know what to think?

It was a bitter battle all day - lasted from 10.30 -4.30 scraping over every penny and this was just MPS!!


Em, got your message. I’m also very upset. I feel like quitting and ending everything. I felt proud of you today coz I thought your brief was useless. I caught hatred in your mums eye 2 day. I want you to know that I love your parents. TC. David. X

Is there love in this message - I just do not know!!

Emalou
xx

Emmalou,
In the breakdown of a relationship, we go through immense emotional trauma. All over the place. Both parties feeling alternately aggrieved or guilty. No relationship is ever 100% perfect. Your H is feeling very guilty. Rightly so. But he has moved on if he is living with another woman.

Em, got your message. I’m also very upset. I feel like quitting and ending everything. I felt proud of you today coz I thought your brief was useless. I caught hatred in your mums eye 2 day. I want you to know that I love your parents. TC. David. X

What's all that about? If he cared that much about you Emmalou, your Mum wouldn't be glaring across a courtroom at him. It wouldn't have got into court. He would have done the decent and fair thing and agreed finances in a reasonable manner.

In my honest opinion, for what it is worth, he is trying to assuage his guilt Emmalou. He is saying what he thinks you want to hear, to ease his conscience. Don't read anything into it. If he wanted to come back to you, you wouldn't be fighting it out in court.

Hard as it it Emmalou, let go. Move on. Easy for me to say, because I have all the same doubts that you do. But I recognize that there is a life for me out there, without my STBX. Yes, she will always be in my life because of our children, but on the periphery, rather than centre stage.

It is hard to do that Emmalou, you have to reach very deep inside yourself to find the strength to do it, but do it you must.

Take care,
Mike

oh dear Emmalou
i can relate to your confusion as my ex sends me texts occasionally which completely throw me of kilter.
you must stay strong and try to not text him and ignore his texts
it is very cruel and manipulative of him, my ex does exactly the same
texts me thanking me for encouraging him to go rehab says is sorry and then next day makes my life hell
unfortunately i think your ex is still trying to control you is feeling a bit guilty
i sympathise with you as i will soon be in Court with ex for MPS and imagine my experience will be very stressful like yours
maybe he is starting to realise that you are a formidable individual and recognises he has got a fight on his hands
dont respond to his texts u r too far down the line to waiver!
stay strong
80s

Thanks for that - have tried to stay strong, but the message was so unexpected it took the wind out of my sails, i have sent him an e-mail, telling him there is no hatred my parents love him as their son and are devastated about what has happened. I have also told him I hope his new girlfriend held him tight as i hate to think of him in a state but I know we will never be together again, so hopefully he realises I am still of the opinion our marriage is over. It is strange but I have always wanted him back, he is living in a flat in wolves all alone and with no furniture and I so want to go see him, but I would just be heading back to disaster. Thanks for the support.

Love

Emalou
xx