My H left in Nov.is having an affair and I'm still devistated. However getting divorced and have to sell the house. No children as they are adults. The house needs some work done before putting on market.
If I give him a key he could come in at any time which I don't want and he takes stuff from the house.
I could get my daughter to be here but I only see her once a week as she lives a considerable distance away and I don't want to be out when she comes.
I haven't seen him since Jan and that is helping me get over him but I need the work done so should I be here when he comes or will that just set me back to where I started.
Some of the best advice I had early on was from this site when I was told to not ring or e-mail him, so I'm hoping for opinions on this.
It must be hard to know what to do for the best. When you say he is taking things, are these his things, or things belonging to the house. It may be a suggestion to try and draw up a list of things that you definitely want to keep and ask him to do the same and agree a time when he can come and remove the things that he wants and either suggest he puts thing in storage or agrees not to just come and collect things when he feels like it. At the end of the day, legally he is entitled to keep his key until a legal agreement is reached re the property and can come and go as he pleases. Obviously it would be better if you could agree that he sends you a text when he wants to come to the house just giving you the time. If you don't want him to have a key, you could arrange to be there and then leave him to get on agreeing a time to return if he cannot secure the house. I know it is hard, but like you say you need him to sort the house out, and the quicker he can do that, the quicker you can sell.
On another note, why not try coming into the chat room if you haven't already done so, some great support to be had and also can have a laugh and a bit of light relief.
You are definately not "thick" when it comes to IT!
Just click on the join chat, sit on the sides lines and you will gain the confidence in the end to type what you type in these posts, its just that you get an immediate answer to your questions, think of it like talking to the computer and it answering you! lol, (laugh out loud) you will pick up all the sayings within an hour and everyone is friendly and helpful, any question will be answered with a heartfelt reply and you will make friends with so many who can help you to move on in life.
Come on gal what are you waiting for? GO FOR IT! LOL