Are these feelings normal?

Daisy. You sound a lot like my ex. She was bored and there is also an age gap. Ten years. I was told all kinds of bulls**t when I split with her. She had an affair though and thats what killed it. What may happen to you is you discover that the grass is not greener on the other side. And when he finds someone you will be gutted. And then you will know that you did the wrong thing and for the rest of your life you will regret what you did.

My ex will regret what she did one day. The bast*** she is with is a wife beater and a wife rapist. But thats for her to find out. Chris.

Daisy

I felt like you did for a while before I found out that my marriage was not wonderful at all but that my husband had been lying to me for years, and had run up large debts which nearly cost us the house.

I would ask you to look at your relationship froma distance and see what is really wrong, I doubt it is the age, althought hte balance does not seem right, you say that it takes two to break a marriage, and it definately does.

I wuold never have thrown out my husband if I had not found out about the lies, but I could have been quietly unhappy for years. I wish I had done some checking earlier and not let everything escalate and explode as it did, but I totally trusted him to the point I found out the whole lot.

I hope whatever the reason you are unhappy is able to be resolved but please look for the real reason and don't just put it down to a feeling.

I wish you all the best

Gogg

Thank you all for your comments and good wishes.

After a series of long and sometimes difficult conversations with my husband, we have both decided to give things one last shot. We've enjoyed a good relationship before, and for a long period of time, so we're both hopeful we can overcome at least some of our difficulties. I'm not yet sure whether this is the easy or hard option though! It certainly felt wrong to leave, but equally it doesn't yet feel 'right' to stay, so we've lots to work on.

Thanks again,
daisydaisy

I stayed until I had exhausted every avenue of staying married but now we are getting divorced I know that this is the way it has to be, and I know there is no other option. I have tried everything. I think this is better than living with what might have been had you stayed together.

The conversations may have been difficult but you only have to read the many experiences of divorce on this site to know how heartbreakingly awful that can be, and at least you are really communicating.

I think the way ahead for you may be rocky from time to time, but I'm sure you are on the way to sorting your relationship out whether that is to stay together or to part, and I wish you well with it.

Shelia

I hope all goes well for you. My wonderful man and his wife who left him again in January for the second time, have also been trying to talk and keep things amicable, he has gone back to her for the 5th time. Each time they talk and they argue and shout, and he comes back and says it will never work. This time she has stamped her feet one too many times, and she has won, he has gone back, mainly because she texts and phones at every opportunity, mainly abusive or angry. Its been 10 days now, he says his priority is to sort out their MH which should have had contracts signed 31 7 07, but solicitors somewhere are dragging their feet. Then he says he will sort his feelings out, he says he cannot hurt me any more, his children hate her, he hates her two boys, and he has great times with me. I can't help thinking that he doesn't love me enough or he would let her go, or he's trying to keep her from destroying this relationship we have, but then he tells me to move on, and will take the risk that I'll find someone else. She has had a boyfriend, and only wanted my man back when she found out about me, not sure if its his money she wants or the fact that she won't let someone else have him. What was so simple is now so exhausting for everyone. He even asked his son to text me to see how I was today! If you love someone enough let them go and they will come back, I think that was the saying, so I have let him go....and I wait hoping that he'll come back.

Try and sort out what you want to do, and I hope if you make a decision, be adult about it and stick with it.