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08 Apr 08 #18971 by chrisjoy
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Can anyone tell me what cross petitioning means and are there any benefits to it? My solicitor has recommended that i cross petition my stbx on his adultery.

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08 Apr 08 #18973 by Angel557
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I bet your sol did , they see ££££££ signs .A bigger expense for the same result, my ex was gonna x petition me but back down due to cost i believe you both send a petition in and both get a divorce him on the grounds he has used and you will get a divorce based on his adultry.

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08 Apr 08 #18974 by chrisjoy
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Thanks for replying Angel. I know the court fees is £200 to cross petition and although it was'nt something i thought of doing it will seem more justified to me to get the real reason why he wants a divorce and it has nothing to do with my behaviour. People may think i should'nt bother but i think his adultery should be noted somewhere or he will look like the innocent party which is the role he is playing to his family and friends.

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09 Apr 08 #18990 by Ephelia
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I guess my own lack of money at the moment may be colouring my thoughts but £200 is a lot of money to pay on 'principle' (plus however much your solicitor will charge to write the cross petition etc). His adultery is 'noted' - you know about it and, presumably, have told others. Do you really want to pay £200 to try and persuade his family of something that because they're his family they'll choose not to believe anyway?

I'd sign the original petition and if you have £200 going spare, treat yourself to something nice; although, as the divorce petition is just the start of a lengthy expensive process, I'd save it to use to pay for any disputes you have over AR.

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09 Apr 08 #18993 by peterc
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save the money for your children (or if you dont have any - yourself!!!!)

the only winners will be lawyers and court fees - you dont gain any more - you still get your divorce.

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09 Apr 08 #19013 by Gingerkitty
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I thought of cross petitioning my X2B because of his adultery, but then what would that gain, I know he committed the adultery, his family do too. At the end of the day I want the end result of divorce.
As my solicitor explained, no-one will see the Petition other than the Judge and parties' solicitors, it has nothing to do with anyone else.
The reason for me wanting to cross petition when I think about it, was purely REVENGE, rather costly so now my thoughts are that I'll use the money I have saved to fight for what really matters, ie providing a home for myself and my 20 and 21 year old children, who, despite having jobs cannot get on the property ladder so are still at home.
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09 Apr 08 #19088 by chrisjoy
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Thanks for all your replies, i know what you all say makes sense, will rethink!

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