I bet your sol did , they see ££££££ signs .A bigger expense for the same result, my ex was gonna x petition me but back down due to cost i believe you both send a petition in and both get a divorce him on the grounds he has used and you will get a divorce based on his adultry.
Thanks for replying Angel. I know the court fees is £200 to cross petition and although it was'nt something i thought of doing it will seem more justified to me to get the real reason why he wants a divorce and it has nothing to do with my behaviour. People may think i should'nt bother but i think his adultery should be noted somewhere or he will look like the innocent party which is the role he is playing to his family and friends.
I guess my own lack of money at the moment may be colouring my thoughts but £200 is a lot of money to pay on 'principle' (plus however much your solicitor will charge to write the cross petition etc). His adultery is 'noted' - you know about it and, presumably, have told others. Do you really want to pay £200 to try and persuade his family of something that because they're his family they'll choose not to believe anyway?
I'd sign the original petition and if you have £200 going spare, treat yourself to something nice; although, as the divorce petition is just the start of a lengthy expensive process, I'd save it to use to pay for any disputes you have over AR.
I thought of cross petitioning my X2B because of his adultery, but then what would that gain, I know he committed the adultery, his family do too. At the end of the day I want the end result of divorce.
As my solicitor explained, no-one will see the Petition other than the Judge and parties' solicitors, it has nothing to do with anyone else.
The reason for me wanting to cross petition when I think about it, was purely REVENGE, rather costly so now my thoughts are that I'll use the money I have saved to fight for what really matters, ie providing a home for myself and my 20 and 21 year old children, who, despite having jobs cannot get on the property ladder so are still at home.