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15 Aug 07 #2019 by donnab
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My husband walked out of our home 28th of decemeber. We were ok at first got on pretty well. he got himself a gf, who i know and detest, known for talking about people shes already talked about me and every one knows my busniess.

I have also met some one new.He has kept out of all of this.

My husbands gf started with telephone calls, screaming abuse down the phonem emailing etc, i attempted to put a stop to it all and tryed to meet and reason with her, she brought a friend with her, who then accused me of attacking her! Since then i have put with with vail emails and texts, they have attempted to blackmail the children into seeing them. My ex refuses to make any form of maintance payment.

My eldest daughter is suffering so much that she had ot go and see an outside agency chams. Who have said that if her father was to be able to see the other children that it should be under supervised conditions. This is bacause he used to hypnotise her and hit her, with out me knowing or i would have done something about it.

My ex is now telling me that he will get an injunction against me, ive done nothing but attempt to get things sorted out. Id love to know how he is able to afford all of this, as he would not be able to get legal aid, he has too much money comming into his new household.

I am unable to get any injunction against him to stop the emails from him and her. She has started emailing my eldest telling her that i am fat and ugly, and that i do not look after her properly, also telling her that she is a spoilt brat who needs a good hiding!

I have even gone as far as have the police go to the property. Still the police have not procecuted them for harassment. they know who the gf is and dislike her with a passion.

All i want is a peaceful life with my children. My children have all stated that if they have to see their dad they do not want to see the gf, yet he will not agree to this.

im now at my whits end. I have to represent myself in court for my children. I also have to do the same for the financial representation. Apparently i earn too much! £11500 per year.

can any one give me any advice on all of this. Ive changed my mobile numbers and email addresses several times yet they are still able to get my address. Same with my daughter.

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15 Aug 07 #2024 by gone1
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Donna. Your face looks familier. Have you been in films? Sorry bad joke. What you need is a non molestation order. You can apply for one thru the court. They are effective at stopping this sort of thing. You apply for one at your local court and you have a statement sworn. This gets served on the other half and he has to prepair an answer to your statement. This goes in front of a judge where you both get to say your bit and the good news is you get to cross examine. If it goes your way he cannot molest or harras you in anyway or get others to do this. If you want to know more PM me. Chris.

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15 Aug 07 #2029 by divwiki
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Hi Donna. Please ignore the 2nd part of my reply on the other forum question as you seem to have already tried the injunction route.

Chris's advice looks good, though of course legislation may not stop these people's behaviour but it does give some legal redress after the event.

They may not have been prosecuted, but find out if they have accepted a caution; in all cases I have heard of this is an admission of guilt.

It's a really tough time when this sort of thing happens, take a day at a time, prioritise yourself and the kids and you'll come through it.

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16 Aug 07 #2040 by donnab
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hi there, im liking that advice, yes yes i am very famous! I could only wish!
any how. how much does the non molestation order cost any ideas, im very low on funding and get no legal help at all.

thanks
donna

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16 Aug 07 #2046 by gone1
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Hi Donna. Its £300 for 1st pettition. Good news is that Ancilory relief is only £210. ;)

Some people can ignore these things and others cant. Non mol and occupation orders are standard fitment in dovirces where I live. Dunno why but there you go. Chris

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