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19 Aug 07 #2175 by Rog.
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Whatever stage you're at, what's the best piece(s) of advice you've been given so far?

Mine are:

The person who is divorcing you is not the same person you married

Pride can stop you seeing the bigger picture: you can set it aside in the short term if it will help you in the long term

I find I have to remind myself of the first one nearly every day...


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19 Aug 07 #2177 by Fiona
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20 Aug 07 #2183 by divwiki
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Relationships are like holidays: bring as much baggage as you want as long as you carry it yourself.

Oh, and don't eat the yellow snow, but that's another matter.:P

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20 Aug 07 #2190 by gone1
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1) The thing that doesent kill you makes you stronger.

2) You will get over this and all it takes is time

3) Time fixes everything.

The 1st one I am not sure about. The last 2 are definatly true. Chris.

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20 Aug 07 #2205 by Shelia
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Divorce takes time and can't be hurried.

There is life after divorce - I am hoping this one is true, after I get divorced I'll go looking for it:)

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21 Aug 07 #2251 by Dockley
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As the late great Bruce Lee once said

"Never take your eyes off your opponent"

Although in my case it is "Never underestimate your opponent"

Funny how someone can go from spouse to opponent in the arena of divorce.:(

Thats the way mine has gone at least.

Oh and also, dont smell dandelions, they make you wee the bed!! :cheer:


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22 Aug 07 #2276 by Sera
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The person who is divorcing you is not the same person you married

Rog. Big hug and thanks for that! I've just printed your words out on an A4 sheet! I couldn't make sense of how this man I married has just turned into an ugly monster.

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