Personally, the best bit of advice I had was from a mate when he said "Chuck her, there are far better women out there"
That said, the best time I ignored advice was the same - I wouldn't have my kids otherwise.
The best bit for me at the moment is to say "F**K It" and move on rather than beat yourself up by dwelling and trying to change things.
I like jay's earlier post.
For me i'd say "You don't really know a woman until you have kids together" - the person I married disappeared very quickly to be replaced by a selfish, greedy and lying bully when no adult was around (the one I married comes back when others are watching).
you are so wise..that is true....way to go...i give you props for being so strong. Kids are a lot happier without having to be caught up in the middle of this war zone. And also for not talking bad about your x2b.she did her bad....and they will see her for what she is on their own. Kids are very intuitive. Also that is the sweetest revenge...you are right...keep you head up high and live on... because eventually it hits them like a ton of bricks right upside their head and they realize how stupid they were for letting you get away. lol...reminds me of a movie. But anyways good luck... it only gets better... I promise.