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What's the best piece of advice you've been given?

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27 Aug 07 #2482 by mick_dan
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I agree on all those.... best piece of advice I have been given is "Keep your cool and remain amicable" and so far its working fairly out, but it is SO HARD esp when your wife is probably seeing someone else when living under the same roof.

But long term it is best to just shut it out and keep cool!

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27 Aug 07 #2492 by jay160602
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Best advice was off my dad 10 years ago, its not what he said, its what he didn't say. "Well its your choice". At the time i though miserable git!

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27 Aug 07 #2505 by gone1
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Mick. Depends on the worse other. If she is on your case all the time its hard to be amicable. I agree on the keep cool bit. There were times when I could have slotted her. I remember once sitting in the conservetory (during one of her abuse sessions) and thinking to myself what it would be like to slide a sword into her torso from the top. It was a nice thought. Chris.

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28 Aug 07 #2534 by annieo
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The best piece of advice I've ever been given (on life in general) is "Never regret what you've done, only what you haven't done".

I've been divorced and widowed and I promise life does go on. In fact in my case it has got better. Hang on in there - time is a great healer.

AnnieB)

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29 Aug 07 #2607 by Monitor441
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The two best pieces of advice about my divorce are these:

1. Don't tell the children about your wife's affair, however much you want too. They are going to go through enough sh*t without hating their mother!

This has worked so far (9 months since separation and kids living week on week off with me and ex 2 be)and they seem much happier living in two houses which are calm and have no rows.

2. The sweetest revenge is your ex seeing you happier without her.

And boy has this one p*ssed her off. My life is so much better without her. I am me again rather than a door mat to some ginger headcase!

Onwards and upwards

M441

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30 Aug 07 #2622 by divwiki
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Try this: if you really want to know someone, divorce them!

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30 Aug 07 #2635 by gone1
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divwiki wrote:

Try this: if you really want to know someone, divorce them!


I liken it to the dark side of the moon!!!!

Chris

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