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Depression, returning 2 work after maternity leave

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10 Sep 07 #3095 by deve
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My daughter was 15 weeks old when my partner decided to leave me for another woman. Our baby was conceived through 6 attempts of ivf so the stress that has put on me mentally coping with the fact he has left after 3 years of trying for her is very painful. Not only do I have to deal with a 5 month old baby, the sale of our home, an impending divorce, I have also since learnt that he has more financial debts and a cocaine habit I knew nothing about. This has pretty much blown my mind.

I was due to return to work after extended maternity leave within the next few months, but with all of this I just cant see this happening any time soon. I have seen my doctor who has diagnosed me as clinically depressed however in light of what has happened I think that it is totally understandable. I just don't see myself being ready to return to work quite yet. I really want my position back when I am ready as I have worked so hard to get to where I am with my career. Can I speak to my employer and go on sick leave, is this viable?

Some advice would be appreciated. x

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10 Sep 07 #3096 by sexysadie
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Hi Deve,

This is a really terrible situation that you are in. As far as I am aware there is no problem with your doctor signing you off sick with depression when it is time for you to go back to work. This is not all that unusual when people have post-natal depression in any case.

It would also be a good idea to talk to your health visitor. They are very experienced and supportive and can give you extra time and help. It will not be the first time s/he has dealt with a new mum who has been left by her partner and will understand how you are feeling.

Best wishes,

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