divorce dragging on need advice

hi after 2 and a half years i am finally divorced it is the financial side we cant get sorted we were together 18 years and have 1 child who is 19 and can support himself. my ex wife left me and my son and went to move in her fathers house rent free not having to pay a penny she now lives in her fathers house with her boyfriend which she has done since she left! My x wife takes around 5 months between each solicitors letter to reply that is when she can b bothered to reply I have made sveral financial offers to which she has refused point blank so as i wanted it over and done with i made her the full offer to which she asked which is to be honest over 50% it has now been over 5 months any advice to what i can do i cant offer any more as I cant afford it and the more my solicitor pesters her to reply the more adament she is to keep waiting but for what? My solicitor has said she just wants to make me suffer I cant afford to take it to court what can I do? I now have a new girlfriend and a baby will i be forced to sell the house?

Have either of you started ancillary relief proceedings?

If you haven't, then this is really the only way of speeding things up as you both have to adhere to timescales imposed by the court in relation to financial information.

This route will cost,and you say you cant afford to go to court, but can you really afford not to? From what you say you are keen to put an end to things.

The thing is with ancillary relief, despite its costs, it HAS to come to an end eventually.
It seems the way things are for you now there is no end in sight.

Have you thought of self representing at court?

I'm sure someone on here who has done that could give you some pointers/help if you decided to.

Best wishes with all this