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Partners wife won''t agree on a divorce

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20 Jun 12 #337951 by Ellerymom
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My partner and I have been together for almost 2 years and have a beautiful baby girl of 10 weeks, unfortunately his wife refuses to get a divorce and whilst they were married for 4 years and separated over 2 years ago she claims she has a right to maintenance despite them having no children and they did not own a property? What can we do? She has been very unpleasant with nasty messages for me and insists she will never divorce him to allow us to marry!

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20 Jun 12 #337953 by SilverFir
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Your partner could try to divorce her on the grounds of unreasonable behaviour ... Or he could wait another three years and then divorce without her consent.

Five years passes quickly, honestly! I''ve been separated over three years and have a little boy with my new partner. My Ex is refusing to divorce too, even after three years, so I''m having to wait until Feb 2014 ... It''s not so long, my boy still won''t have started school by then (that''s how I''m measuring it!)

(((hugs)))) Ex''s can be SO annoying!

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20 Jun 12 #337959 by Ellerymom
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Thanks so much for the support, I''ve been a divorccee on the other side and wouldn''t have dreamed of being so difficult but I guess some people aren''t as compliant . X :)

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20 Jun 12 #337962 by WhiteRose
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Its a control thing IMO - like she wants to prevent you being happy by not divorcing him to enable him to marry you. She may be feeling super-smug with this thought.

But no-one can stop you loving each other or being a family.

So you aint got a piece of paper or a white frock at the moment. Doesn''t stop whats in your heart and you know one day you''ll be there and when you do get wed, how wonderfully special it will be.

Good things come to those who wait :)


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