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13 Oct 07 #4670 by TMax
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:)Mmmm a couple of times now I have entered chat and certain members have been in, I know people don’t have to talk to a person who enters chat nor is it compulsory, but to totally freeze out those who enter and get zero response is a sign of ignorance, I would suggest that perhaps it would be polite to at least say Hi hope you don’t mind I’m afraid we need to chat in private, but to sit there without the courtesy of a reply to questions shows the vulgarity of a bitter peasant.:P

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13 Oct 07 #4671 by apm
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Obviously, I don't know about your particular experiences but open chat rooms can be problematic. Obviously, it is not nice to be froaen out, as you say.

I believe the chat on this site needs some thinking about as the free for all approach can lead to situations like you describe, whether intentional or not.

Maybe, a initial chat room where you enter only then to moveinto a different chat room to actually talk to people. If you look at the current chat, it has "Divorce Chat 2nd Room" and "Socialise", whatever they are. I wonder if more rroms can be set up and guidelines published that say, 'whenever more than n number of people are in a room then start a new room' or some such.

Personally, I find any more than 5 people (inlcuding yourself) and it is almost impossible to get any sense out of the "conversation.

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13 Oct 07 #4672 by scottishlady
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Hi Max...
I haven't experienced any problems such as you describe regarding the chatroom....
personally, I have always found whoever is in there to be most welcoming...including yourself (thankyou)

I started a thread on a very similar topic just last week I think...in that... it is virtually impossible to have a 'sensible' (is it ever - lol) conversation when there are many people in the chat...
The problem, as far as I can see, is that, everybody piles into chatroom 1, and just 'blends in' to the conversation..
I suggested that the 3 chatrooms be displayed on the homepage... that way, people can choose which room they want to enter... and if one is very busy then a new conversation could be started in another room...
or perhaps name the chatrooms on the homepage... 1)serious divorce chat.... 2)divorce chit chat..... 3) divorce fun chat....
just a thought.....
I for one, would hope that I haven't purposely 'blanked' anyone entering the chatroom..... and if I have, please accept my apologies, it would have been most unintentional...

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13 Oct 07 #4673 by TMax
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Hi yes that would be fine :-)it would also have to say what rooms each are in on the "whose chatting frame" as at the moment its doesnt say whose where you click on a name and could be anywhere. also a PM beside names if they are in PM chat only or even the ability to click for private chat from the on line list.

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13 Oct 07 #4675 by Louise11
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Hi You 2

Can i just say something, if someones name is in chat and they dont appear to be chatting the reason being is that they didnt sign out last time, so their name stays on screen as if they are still in there. I spoke to Wiki about this some months ago and they put the "to sign out click here" sign up top right, so people could click out. Seems some folks dont realise their name stays in the room if they dont do this.
Scottishlady, if you go in other chatrooms you will see that the main room is probably full of people talking, one that i used to go in has at any one time 150 people all talking at once! LOL. The idea is you say hello, someone answers you and will then click on private chat asking if you would like to talk. The problem there is you end up with 20/30 boxes all open with private chats, a bit like my daughter on MSN she has at least 30 boxes open all at once chatting to various people all at once! How they do it god only knows, but then she can type so much quicker than me!
I think the chat room on this site is set up exactly the same way and i bet in maybe say a years time the main chat room will be like all the rest where it will have maybe a 100 people chatting all at once. Then you go have private chat with whoever.
I was in chat the other day when wiki came in and we tried the other rooms, i for one cant get in to them and neither could Angel we had to be invited in by who ever was in there. So it seems some of us can enter the rooms and have to be invited in and some of us can get in the rooms and do the inviting!
I also think alot of us cant touch type so we miss what has been said in the chatroom, before we finish typing our sentences, i for one have to scroll up the screen if there are a lot of people chatting just to get the jist of what has been said!
Maybe none of us should take offence if people private chat its just easier for some of us to concentrate on one conversation.
But then again i for one am nosey so me likes to read everything! lol
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13 Oct 07 #4676 by Shelia
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I think wiki chat brings many people into the chat room that are not used to using one. Wiki chat is the first one that I used. But I found most people friendly, and like life, not everyone is. Some people are, very understandably, wound up in their own divorce miseries. Maybe we need some info on etiqutte on using the chat facilite so everyone knows how to go on.

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13 Oct 07 #4683 by gooner
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just a comment

i had this last night just chatting away then all of a sudden they just dissapeared?? no other comment nothing!!. it would be nice if people would let everyone else know that they dont want to chat anymore i have not been on this site very long but the people that i have chatted too seem friendly and nice....not moaning just a comment lol.:)

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