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17 Oct 07 #4808 by loonytoon
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My story is this, I have been just married for over a year,now and my wife is wanting me to divorce her.

My wife and I met early 2006 after she came to England fro the US, she is british with legal resident status in the USA. We got married in 10 months, and life was good for a while. Anyway she wanted to move us to the States and told me she would sponsor me and we would go fro there. We lived together in the Uk for 6 months of our marriage, during which tie we decided she would return to the US and start things rolling. We had a difficult period lading up to this, arguments, indsecurities on both parts but we grew strong before she left and were both devastated to be apart.

After 3 or 4 weeks of her leaving i noticed a very definate change in her, she wouldnt want to talk on phone, and communication was difficult. It transpired that she had started an affair with her ex husband and did not know what she wanted from life. This left me devastated, and I began to hear she was spreading lies about me as a person to her family. Things that seeingly were so absurd they couldnt be believed.

This went on for another few weeks, until one day she called crying saying she loved me and wanted me, hastily I booked a flight and wnt out for a week to see her. A week passed and I felt like we needed more time, so we took the decision that I would stay for 3 months to ensure our relationship was strong. In the process I lost my job, a place to live, pretty much all things I had here in the UK, and for 3 months we were great, until I had to leave. I got back from the USA and no less than 2 weeks later this situation has arisen again. I know in yself that I have done all I can to save our marriage. Now I just feel like I have been completely used, I took out loans to make things work for us, which I am now stuck with, whilst she is in the USA living scott free. She has lied and cheated her way through the last 6 months. I bough her ticket home, paid passport fees, everything to make her happy

I am just so loast as to what I need to do now in this situation, I do not want the marriage over so why should I pay even more money into ending it for her. Sha is asking for a divorce as if I a the one in the wrong here.

Can anyone give me some advice into what my steps should be, or where I can go from here? I dont know whether we have to divorce in the UK as we were married her, or if she can do it from that end. Please help!

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17 Oct 07 #4809 by mike62
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No expert, but might be better to do it here, as you can understand the UK system, and it may be less prejudicial than the Good Old US of A. She sounds like she has used you in a big way, and I can feel for your resentment and anger. You have to live with the consequences, despite not being the cause. Not good.

Hopefully, someone with some experience than me of this will answer this post, and i know that there are other users here that have dealt with transatlantic divorces.

Good luck and take care

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