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20 Oct 07 #5010 by Autumn
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Hi all

I am still wearing my wedding ring (13 years married!), still in marital home with ex2b (he ended it 4 months ago) have just excepted a offer on the house, hoping to be out of here soon!!

What I want to know is what have you have all done with your wedding rings? I don't want to just put it in a draw and forget about it, I think I'd like to chuck it ceremoniously somewhere!

Is it time for me to take it off now? It certainly doesn't mean anything anymore. Or do I remove it when I leave here.

Love to hear your views.

Many thanks


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20 Oct 07 #5012 by Angel557
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I removed my rings before i even split up with him , i then put them in my jewellery box, then i got them out again and put them on the finger on my right hand , i have left my engagement ring on my right hand finger as i think it's a pretty ring it don't mean anything else to me , my wedding ring right now is sitting on my coffee caddy dunno why , i feel it represents a lie i have lived and it's not worthy of being in my jewellery box as i have rings that belonged to my grandmother's in there.You'll know when the time is right to remove your rings, as with what you do with them i don't know him he don't even know where his is or so he says.Don't even know why i still have mine can't answer that question.

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20 Oct 07 #5016 by Nettle
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I stopped wearing my engagement and eternity ring when I felt the marriage was over, and they are currently in my purse. I plan on giving them to my daughter, but I don't know if X2B will agree to it, or even if he had a say ion the matter.

I still have my wedding ring on, because i am still living with him and the kids, and I don't want to upset the kids.

I will remove the ring when I leave. I'm not sure if I will give that to my daughter too.

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20 Oct 07 #5028 by mike62
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My STBX had hers off before we attended the first Relate session. Don't know what she did with it. She replaced it with another ring that I had bought for her. I asked her not to wear any rings that I had bought for her on her wedding ring finger, as I found it offensive.

She like to pretend she is different things on different days. Sometimes she will be wearing a ruby ring with the stone on the inside to pretend she is married, when it suits. Bizarre!

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20 Oct 07 #5032 by TMax
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My Xs went to the pawn shop then the cash went to bargain booze... my face of concern :silly:

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20 Oct 07 #5041 by topaz
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:cheer:I took my ring off 2 weeks ago, took a lot of cooking oil to prise it off and it me left with a sore finger for 3 days but it was worth it.I'm not bothered about the ring,it wasn't the original one anyway,I'm more bothered about the white ring mark and mishaped finger after 34 years of wearing one.

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20 Oct 07 #5042 by hrm
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I took my wedding ring off the day after he moved out-I keep it in my jewellery box because it reminds me of happy times together.I hope to give it to my daughter some day.

Then I went to Argos and bought a cheap wedding ring because it felt weird without one.

I kept it on for about a year-then the letter came asking how I'd feel about a divorce so I took that ring off and put it in a drawer.

It still felt weird so now I wear the eternity ring he bought me on the birth of our daughter.It still means a lot because of when I got it not because of who bought it.

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