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27 Oct 07 #5374 by Unpleasant
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Hi, hope someone can advise me.

I went to civil court and got a non-molestation order on my ex, the conditions are not to threaten or use violence against me, not to intimidate, harass or pester me.

My question, should this order stop my ex from contacting me completely?
I just receieve a letter saying sorry etc, it wasn't threatening or anything like that, just saying 'sorry its come to this, you know where i am if you wanna talk'.

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27 Oct 07 #5380 by Unpleasant
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doesnt anyone know ?

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27 Oct 07 #5388 by topaz
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I dont think this is a breach of the order if it's only one letter you have received and was not threatening in any way, however if he continues to send you letters then it may be considered "pestering" and then you may need to take action.Personally I'd discuss this possibility with your sol so you know where you stand should this occur.
My sx2b pestered me continuously by asking me out for meals, or trips out whilst divorce in progress and by my refusing continuously it aggravated the situation.I didnt get an injunction as it was emotional abuse he used and difficult to prove but I did get an informal agreement whereby he agreed that he wouldn't ask me out socially at all and therefore save me the constant stressful situation of refusing and becoming stressed out knowing how his mood would change afterwards.hope this helps.

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28 Oct 07 #5396 by Sera
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What was signed in the Order? I'm currently defending non-mol, we agreed not to phone each other, daft since we share house, so communication is still there!

I don't think you should feel harassed by a letter saying 'sorry'.... are you intimidated by that?

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28 Oct 07 #5398 by Unpleasant
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no im not harssed by it, just didnt know i should report it ot not.
normal non-molestation order, no specs dont threaten violence etc etc... see above

yeah fair play if he wants to send me a letter saying sorry ok, doesnt worry me , just anted to know what consitutess a breach...
sorry really pissed be oout tonight...need to unwinde

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28 Oct 07 #5412 by Sera
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Unpleasant wrote:

just anted to know what consitutess a breach...


This whole non-mol issue seems to be open to abuse.

I started a thread here (now ten pages!) on my experience:

www.wikivorce.com/joomla/Divorce-Forum/C...t=7&limitstart=0

I feel there's a general misinterpretation of what 'Molestation' is. My ex went on holiday without telling his Business Partner, his Business Partner contacted me, desperately trying to get hold of him, so I called his mobile, (several times), some personal issues, some Buisness Issues..... it ends up on Trial Bundle that I 'continually harrassed him whilst on holiday'. :S

The stupidity of such things!

I'm not sure what you'd get from 'reporting' his letter would do? I think it would just waste Police or Court time because it sounds so damn petty!

If he continues to pester, annoy etc; then do something about it. Until then, Chill! :)

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05 Nov 07 #5898 by Blondie
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This is going to sound daft but, is there any reason to oppose a non-molestation order? I presume non of us actually want to pester the person taking these things out?

The reason I post is that my ex-partner is probably going to take one out on myself this week. I have a drink problem and since we split (about 1 month ago) we have made several attempts to get back together.

On Saturday I badgered him to bring my stuff round from his house and we agreed to talk on Sunday when his house guests departed. I proceeded to get very drunk. In partial blackout I remember storming round to his house - not sure why but in front of his friends I think I have shouted and pushed him against the wall. He rang the police who obviously advised me to go home quietly.

I have recieved a text from him saying he will take me to court today (Monday) and get a restraining order. I know it will actually have to be a non-mol. We live in a small town - my flat is less than 100m from a business he owns and I have to use the main road that runs past it. I also have been in touch with AA and have been asked to attend a meet in a church about 50m from my ex partner's house.

Obviously I need to stop drinking asap, does anyone know howthis sort of thing applies in a small town where partners live/work close to each other?

I accept my behaviour and am quite scared as I don't know why I was such an idiot so obviously will not contest the application.

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